THE CONCEPT OF SABR (PATIENCE) IN ISLAM

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“Allah surely loves those who are the Sabireen (patient).” (3:146)


Hardships and ease are a trial for you. Everything Allah chooses for you; from good or evil, is for your benefit. Whatever occurred to you could not have missed you and what missed you could never have reached you. Rewards are only for those who are patient with the Decree of Allah.
Panic and impatience cannot prevent Allah’s Decree. Shakwah (complaining) is contradictory to Sabr (patience). 
 Allah alone can protect you from harm and ease your difficulties. Sabr is obligatory!
If the affliction results from acts of obedience to Allah, such as injury on the battlefield, losing money during Hijrah
(migrating for the sake of Allah), losing a job because of accepting Islam or because one attempts to follow the Sunnah of Allah’s Messenger (Salal-Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) like growing the beard, wearing the lower garment above the ankles, etc, then the affliction is a trial. Whoever bears it with patience will be rewarded and whoever exhibits annoyance may invoke the wrath of Allah upon himself.
If the affliction befalls due to sinful actions, such as illnesses caused by drinking alcohol and using drugs etc, 
 then the affliction is a punishment from Allah. Hasten to avoid all sinful acts and turn towards Allah in
 repentance and ask his forgiveness. Otherwise, know that the punishments of the Hereafter are far more severe and unbearable.
If the affliction is neither connected to neither a good deed nor a sin, such as other kinds of disease and sickness, losing
 a child, or failing in business, then you should evaluate your actions. 
 If you are involved in some kind of disobedience to Allah then the affliction is a punishment for you and a reminder to leave your evil deeds. Otherwise, Allah has caused this affliction to test your patience. The Messenger of Allah (Salal-Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “One amongst the inhabitants of Hell, who had lived a
 life of ease and pleasure in the world, would be made to dip in the Hell Fire only once on the Day of Resurrection. 
 Then he would be asked: ‘O son of Adam, Did you find any comfort. Did you get any blessing?’ He would say: ‘By Allah, no, my Lord!’ Then a person, from the inhabitants of Paradise, who had led the most miserable life (in the world), would be made to dip once in Paradise and it would be said to him: ‘O son of Adam, did you face any hardship or experience any distress?’ he would say: ‘By Allah! No never have I experienced any hardship or distress’.” (Saheeh Muslim, No. 6738)


“And certainly, We shall test you with something of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits, but give glad
 tidings to as-Saabireen (the patient ones). 
 Who, when afflicted with calamity, say: “Inna lillaahi wa Inna Ilaihi Raaji’un (Verily to Allah we belong and verily, to Him we shall return).”
 They are those on whom are the Salawaat (i.e. who are blessed and will be forgiven) from their Lord, and (they are
 those who) receive His Mercy, and it is they who are the guided-ones.” (2:155-157)
THE 4 LEVELS OF PEOPLE WHO ARE AFFLICTED:

The First Level:
Being angry, and this is in various ways: 
 and anger is of two types. The first type of anger is that which is directed toward his Lord. So he becomes angry at what Allah has decreed for him, and this is Haraam (forbidden). 
 And it is possible that this could lead to kufr. Allah said: “And among mankind is he who worships Allah upon the very edge (i.e. in doubt); if good befalls him, he is content therewith; but if a trial befalls him, he turns back on his face (i.e. Reverts back to disbelief after embracing Islam). 
 He loses both this world and the Hereafter. That is the evident loss.” (22:11)
 The second type of anger is expressed by the tongue like making du’aa for destruction or ruin and what is similar to that, and this is Haraam. 
 The third type of anger is expressed by the limbs like slapping the cheeks, ripping clothing, pulling out hair, and similar to that, and all of this is Haraam and in contradiction to patience which is Waajib.
The Second Level:
Being patient, just as in the saying: Patience is like its name – bitter in taste, yet its outcomes are sweeter than honey. 
 The person at this level feels the affliction to weighs very heavy upon him, yet he bears it although he dislikes that it happened. Rather, his Eemaan bears it and restrains him from being angry. So the time of affliction and the time of no affliction is not the same to him, and this (level) is Waajib, because Allah commanded the people to be patient, saying: 
 “And be patient, indeed Allah is with the patient ones.” (8:46)

The Third Level:
Being pleased with the affliction in that the person is pleased with the affliction and whether it happened or not, it is the same to him so he it is not difficult upon him. 
 He does not bear it as if it is something weighing heavy on him, and this (level) is Mustahabb (preferred) and it is not Waajib according to the most correct opinion. 
 The difference between this level and the one before it is apparent because the affliction happening or not happening is the same due to the pleasure of the one on this level. 
 As for the level before it, the affliction is hard upon him, yet he remains patient over it.
The Fourth Level:
Thankfulness and being grateful and this is the highest level. This is that the person thanks Allah for the affliction which has struck him in that he knows that this affliction is expiation for his sins and perhaps a cause for an increase in his good deeds.
 The Prophet (sall-Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “There is no affliction which strikes the Muslim except that
 Allah expiates with it (sins), even with a thorn that may poke him.” (Bukhaaree & Muslim)


Supplication (Dua): O Allah, make us from those who have patience upon hardships and those who are thankful upon Your blessings.

Ameen!

Notes from me:

Allah Subhanawataala says in the Quran:

“Nay, seek (Allah’s) help with patient perseverance and prayer: It is indeed hard, except to those who bring a lowly spirit, Who bear in mind the certainty that they are to meet their Lord, and that they are to return to Him. ” [Quran 2:45-46]

Dua/Supplication:
“Allahumma musarrifal-qulubi, sarrif qulubana `ala ta`atika” – O Allah! Controller of the hearts, direct our hearts to Your obedience…ameen

184 thoughts on “THE CONCEPT OF SABR (PATIENCE) IN ISLAM

  1. Assalamualaikum,

    Thanks a lot for the article and the kind responses/replies.

    I hope, you notice mine.

    In short: I was in a relationship for 6 years with a man whom I was going to marry this year. He cheated on me and dumped me because I am “Fatty” and “not presentable”. That girl do not have good character – already divorced 2 times, abandoned own son, was involved in adultery while married. Both of them mocked me, played with my feelings, and insulted me. In past 6 years I supported him – He was nothing, I made him established, I gave his present job, I helped in his studies (his all assignments/reports were made by me), whenever I used to pray or after every fasting I would pray for his betterment, because I considered him as my husband. I performed all duties of a wife can ever do EXCEPT the physical relation, but he was okay with that. And he did same with that girl.

    I had a reality check. I turned to Allah, seek forgiveness for being in a relationship which is Haram. I forgave him, But, whenever I tried to move on he came to me with apology, with marriage proposal. And whenever I used to agree he again return to that girl.

    From 2002, I am having a difficult life. My career, my well being etc was always on hard rock. BUT, he was my world. After him, my family sheltered me. Recently I found that I have PCOS and all those years I could not be “Sexy” for him because I have a hormone higher than usual.
    My family is trying for my Nikaah. But at age 26, being overly educated, not “Sexy” and in past refusing good proposal made it hard.

    AND they are happy, I invested my 6 years for him, made him established so that he can be suitable for my parents choice, dedicated all my time, duas for him and when the time of his payback came he cheated and dumped me for that low woman. Now, they are going to marry. They are happy, He is giving the same dedication I used to give him but not he to me. They are planning honeymoon, future.

    And, I, here, even after 7 months, in spite of not doing anything wrong, not even sex in 6 years (but, yes, being in relationship) am suffering, trying to recover from broken heart, trying to live normally. My parents are raising their blood pressure by the thought of mu future.
    Then tell me, where is the Justice? I had keep my patience till now. But, I can’t bear anymore. I have always had that “bad luck” but never complained to Allah but now question and questions runs through my mind which I want to Ask Allah.

    Please, tell me what to do. It seems my “sabr” are crossing it’s limit.

    • WalaikumAsalaam wa rahmatullahe wa barakatahu,
      If you look at your condition from the viewpoint of a detached onlooker, it seems you have been saved a married life of 20 or 30 years filled with misery, sadness, betrayal, and lack of respect. Is that what you want out of a marriage?
      Step one is to take care of yourself: Eat halal and tayyab (organic) Examine your earnings and change them if there is haram in them (dealing with alcohol and gambling etc) exercise, find a buddy to do it with or join a biking or hiking club, educate your self about your Deen study Quran with tafseer daily for an hour or two. Allah says in Surah Baqarah ” There will be no fear or grief if you follow my guidance” I am a living example of his promise. So get with the program and stop looking back, reminiscing, envying, wishing etc and move forward to make a new you and a new life, and you will be surprised what doors will open for you.
      And yes as sadaqah volunteer in a charity, a soup kitchen, prison teacher, babysitting a single mothers kids, or cleaning up at the mosque. or any other charity work that you find once a week or twice a month.
      In one last look back check out your mistakes and learn from them and don’t do them in the next relationship. A man woman relationship should be on equal footing, you were behaving like his mama, feeding him, financing him, etc. You were acting like his wife while he was leaning on you like a son. both relationships were pathological both from the islamic and secular point of view. SO evaluate each man you meet as a possible husband and do not develop a dependent or forbidden relationship one to one and check if he is serious about proposing and do not act as a wife unless you have a signed Nikah Nama. As one man very crudely said “why buy the cow when you are getting the milk free”
      So once you have analysed your mistakes of the past do not look back! RasoolAllah said ” don’t not say IF or in urdu “Kaash” because when you say that Shaitaan puts his foot in the door and pulls you out into the universe of nothingness where you roam looking for something that isn’t there and valuable time is lost.
      At 26 your are not on the shelf, you have 20 more years of childbearing years and many more of being a fun wife to someone. REDESIGN your self to be someone Allah loves and everyone will love you!!

  2. As salam waleykum

    I really need some help
    Have been married for 6.5 years and having good and very bad times in this relationship, when we argue my husband beats me up, this time he hit me so much i was scared and ended up calling the police, but i dropped the charges, my intention was just to put some sort of scardness in his head so he think before he raise his hand, this went all wrong because i called the police he wants to know divorce me because he is hurt by my actions, i cant be without him, what should i do he will not change his mind, please help me i beg you.

  3. Alhamdulillah for this great article.

    I would like to ask about the concept of ‘sabr’ when it comes to relationship between family members. For instance, I asked for a favor from my sister but she declined and replied in a mean way. If I am being patient with her because I am holding myself back from replying to her in a mean way also, does being patient in this manner come within the concept of ‘sabr’ in Islam?

    I am very much hoping for your reply. Shukran :)

    • Asalaam o alaikum! This concept comes with the Huqooq al ebad and has many many rewards from Allah!
      May Allah bless you for remaining silent in the face of provocation.

    • aslam alikum,
      My husband has been cheating on me for on and off for 8 years, and he has no regrets and no remorse for his actions. i have waited patiently for this long but i can’t take it any more, how much more saber do i need to do. I always ask Allah that i hav never had a namahram even shake my hand, so why did Allah gave me a husband like that, it is very very hard to move on and i am at the end of my saber.

      • Walaikum Asalaam, you are confusing sabr with bearing up with Dhulm or oppression. Your husband has broken his marriage vows and is committing the heinous sin of adultery, in islam you qualify for a divorce immediately. If you don’t, from a practical point of view you will get a serious sexually transmitted disease from one of his partners through him. Its time to get out and find a lawyer and an Imam you will give you Khula and the lawyer will get you what you deserve for mental and physical cruelty through years of adulterous relationships.
        Find strength in salah.

  4. Aslam o Aliakum, JazakAllah khair for this nice and beautiful article. I was really depressed since I showed patience for a long time , I was thinking that the period I am facing at the moment in my life is all because of my sins and at the end just yesterday I asked Allah that I am getting disappointed now and cannot bear anymore and do not want to be sinful again for being disappointed as this is haraam. Now I am seriously shameful for my reactions and word I spoke to my Lord, my Allah.
    Alhamdulillah for everything. Alhamdulillah…

    • Walaikum Asalaam wa Rahmatullahi wa barakatahu! Allah is with you and He is the best confidante. Talk to Him, complain to him and ask his opinion and help.
      Smile a lot
      Watch mufti menk he has a good video on sabr and some funny clips too:)

  5. AoA, as someone facing very testing difficulties I often resort to searching for any insightful articles on sabr and tribulations. Most articles simply roll out the quotes that we all know, but in the most difficult times we need more. I think for all of us there has to the realisation that for something to be a genuine test, or tribulation it has to be something that perturbs us deeply. It amazes me in life how different people react to different situations. Even non-Muslims who go through undoubted hardships have amongst them people who (outwardly) seem to cope, and other who fall apart. Much the same as Muslims, it seems.

    My own difficulties leave me at times in situations where I am facing a problem (family, work, business) that is threatening to explode, that requires an immediate response, yet I feel completely and utterly bewildered as to what that response should be. At these times I am at a loss as to what simple patience is. IF I knew that I could simply switch off, do nothing except for dhikr and the problem would go away I would. Not having confidence to take action, fearing the course of action will backfire, what exactly is sabr in this situation? For people who, for whatever mysterious reason, have a naturally pessimistic disposition sabr during difficulties is, well, difficult. An optimist will find it naturally easy(ier) to trust in Allah (swt). The one or two articles in Islam I’ve read about pessimism do a great job of describing what pessimism is, but are woeful in prescribing a remedy .. “don’t be pessimistic”. I would be most grateful if someone can point to any sources that deal with this issues of pessimism, sabr and trust in Allah.

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  8. Salamo aleykom. I was very very very sad before I read this article, I am in a deppresion, I do say Alhamulilah when something hard hits me and hurts me , but I felt like I was lost, I do have alot of hope in ALLAH I always have, Its just sometimes I lose connection with my Lord and at that time I feel like lost in this world. Im thankful for reading this article, it has made me really strong, I hope Allah will help every single muslim out there whos facing alot of difficulties, may Allah give us all Jannah and forgive all our sins. Amin Ya Rabb <3

    • We all go through hardships… Listen to Ayub (Alai) and Yoonus (Alai)’s stories… Ayub (Alai) was tested for almost 7 years, and he did not lose faith in Allah. Think of it, Allah tests us to bring out the best in us. :) I pray that Allah should make things easy for you. :)

  9. Bismillahi Rahmani Rahim:I was really happy and motivated going through this piece.Initially,I came to this website for a lecture I was to present but I myself was lectured and my heart was touched as I was reading through.Also,reading through it has really lectured me on somethings I did not know about.It has also taught me to accept anything that befalls me with good faith.On a final note,it has changed me for the best.JAZAKUMULAHU KHAIRAN KASIRAN

    • JazaikAllah hu Khairan, May Allah be pleases with your change and may you put it into acton.
      please keep me and all the scholars who distilled this information and all the students who passed it on, inshallah you will do the same.

  10. Ya sheikh is it possible for me to see either of the prophet (saw) or Allah (sw) in a dream,and what should i do to see Them,kheir InshaALLAH.

    • ASA, I am not a sheikh. However why do you want to see them in a dream. Work good works, obey Allah and do not disobey Him and you will see them in the AKhirah. That is a good goal to have, this life is short and just a test.

    • ASA. Again a reminder, I am not a sheikh. Here is what Allah says in the Quran which may help you:
      [42:51] Surah Shuraa ayah 51 translation by Yusuf Ali
      It is not fitting for a man that Allah should speak to him except by inspiration, or from behind a veil, or by the sending of a messenger to reveal, with Allah’s permission, what Allah wills: for He is Most High, Most Wise.

  11. Bismmwillahi,wallahi this lecture have motivated me in the highest point,but still i need more to enlighten and receive a bit of recognition from Allah SW,may He (SW) bless you all, Ameen.

  12. Assalaam Aly Kum,

    Dear Brother Asqfish, Alhumdulillah, Allah made our ways very easy with the help of your valuable duwas. Again I am facing hardship and trails. I lost my respect in my area as well money. I am unable to express my view in this regards. Please make duwa for us to get out from this and Allah give us SABR to face this calamity.
    I would like to ask you one question, if a person be cheated and lost faith with someone, what would be the rewards from Allah Subhanautalaala?
    Please reply to have more SABR.

    Jazak Allah
    mohammed63

    • Assalaam Aly kum, I would like to ask a AJEEB question. It’s very strange for you, but its true. I even feel guilty or so to but its unbearable for me. I wanna to share with some1.
      1. Is it true that parents are always 100% right?
      2. Is the story that a son took his mother’s heart for his girlfriend and fell down on the way and heart speak to him to walk carefully?
      3. If parents are not wishing to forgive their son on any cost, what son has to do?
      4. Is any hadith that tells us that joint family is permit able in a single room?

      Please, please, please guide me in that so I will be get benefits for here and hereafter.

      Jazak Allah

      • Assalaam Alykum,

        Dear brother, I could not get any response about the post dated 22-02-13 at 11:52pm. Could you please let me know the answers at earliest. Badly waiting for your reply.
        Jazak Allah oh Kaher

      • Walaikum Asalaam,
        I think the answer to those questions depend on the details of the circumstances. It is advisable that you go to your local Imam or Scholar tell him your circumstances and get advice. May ALlah guide you and your family.

      • Assalaamalykum, It is very difficult to get such in my area. Do you have any site known where I can correspond with the to get the answer before die???
        Jazak Allah

  13. Thanks for your fathawa through i lost my husband we are together for morethen 15yrs no kids we still love each orther until when death saperate us he died 7 month ago we are together with our adopted child, am looking after him. eventhough no job am a digree holder things change, before when my husband is alive i dont know any difficulties but stil thanks GOD. i know HE put me in this situation, not because HE hate me but to test my faith for me all what i waint in this world to observe my religion obligation according to quran & sunnah. also die as muslim. thanks alot for allowing to write.

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  17. Asalamalaykum Brothers & Sisters

    I wanted to ask all of you here to make dua for me to allah ( swt )
    i am going through a verry difficult time in my life right now and i need your duas please make dua to allah ( swt ) that he helps me and accepts my duas please make dua for me from your heart and raising hands please,
    may allah reward you all. Jazakallahu khairan.

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  19. Asalaam o alaikum,
    Inshallah on the final day all accounts will be brought to Allah, the father who oppresses, the mother whose children are taken from her unjustly and much more.
    Inshallah Justice will be done by ALlah. Meanwhile we have to keep to His obedience for in that is our test from Him.
    May He make us strong in emaan and Istiqamah with salah and Dhikr. May Allah make it easy for you and strengthen your heart.

  20. Sister, you have said Allah listens to a mother and oppressed; why then the male-dominated society listens to father’s lies against a mother whose voice gets unheard, whise children are forced not to meet the mother for the father is mighty, rich and powerful in the society. Being patient is to be like a machine, not to let your emoions sutrface, to be brave beyond everything, to be counting days till Allah salvages you from this painfull life to take you to death….Sister, being patient, living life, cuts you all the time but you don’t bleed, only the sufferer knows the pain…

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  22. Walaikum Asalaam,
    May Allah grant you many children……..remember they may not be in the traditional sense your children, but would look up to you as a mother figure. Are there any such children in your surroundings that you could be a stabilizing center for them?

  23. AsSalamAlaikum,
    JazakAllah Khiran for this much need reminder. I need it after unsuccessfully trying to get pregnant for the past 13 years. I need patience and something else to think about rather than having babies all the time.

    tree

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  26. Salam,

    Jazak Allah asqfish & Rafiq. I will try that and keep in touch with you. Please keep rembering us in your duwas.
    Alhumdulillah, now direct Co. says that they will send visa and ticket by 17th Jan, 2011. Pray that they fulfill their commitment.
    Wasalam.

    • Our prayers are with you and all the other muslims and Allah’s (swt) creations who are suffering or strayed brother. Please do keep us up to date and strive for a better life and inshAllah God will bless you with what is truley best for you.

      And Asqfish may Allah reward you for the help you are offering through this medium. If only everyone can have this mentality of helping others in whatever way we can… the world would be a beautiful place. JazakAllah.

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  28. Salam,

    Jazak Allah, I tried to do the same, but she doesn’t even look at me. She told that I gave here so much pain, when I asked whats that pain, she refused to talk more. I think, think and think and try to find out whats wrong things I had done, but I never found any fault. I love her a lot. I just remember that I was shouting her when she refused to come to my home. Rest Allah knows better. Can you tell me the online Faqhee, so I will get help from him, pls?

    Jazak Allah
    Keep praying for us.

    • Salaams brother.

      So if i understand this correctly; your mother gets angry at you meeting the relatives, and when you ask her why she doesn’t tell you. Well it seems that she has an issue with these people and thus does not want her son to associate with them. What these issues are she doesnt want to tell you; but just to obey her in not meeting up with these people. Well there is your solution. Distance yourself from them whilst still keeping the peace, whilst at the same time educating your mother to the importance of forgiveness and brotherhood in islam and how Allah (swt) does not want us to bear grudges. This way your mum will be happy that you are keeping your distance, as well as giving you time to calmly findout what the problem is and try to resolve it. Also your relatives won’t notice much differece as you are still in peace with them. worth a shot. May Allah (swt) ease the burdens of your mind. Ameen.

  29. walaikum asalaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatahu!
    Perhaps it would help to find out exactly why your mother is angry with you? If she raised you as a good muslim son, she would be very happy to see you following the Quran and Sunnah. May be you need to sit with her and find out in a quiet way what is the problem and what does she think is the solution.
    The general consensus of Muslim behaviour is “obey Allah and His Rasool and honor your parents”, unless they want you to do something that is against Tawheed and your faith.
    I am not a fiqeeh, Allah knows best.
    I pray that your situation is better/

  30. Salam Brother, As you said, I tired to change my way. I am having a question. If a like to obey the Sunna e.g., if I used to meet my aunty, uncle, relatives etc. and thankful those who helps me in my need. But due to this, my mother get angry. Shall I continue with meeting them or stop for my mother. I am having beard, pray salah on time, Tahajud too. I want to live on the way of Ph. Mohammed (SWS) as much as I can. Whatever I does, she opposed that. Please help me out in this matter. Jazzak Allah

  31. Walaikum As Salaam,
    Isn’t it true that Allah Subhanawataala tests our emaan in Him in so many ways, some by loss of children, and some by loss of things.
    Struggle hard and perhaps change the path you are on and look elsewhere, maybe you will see a different avenue.
    May Allah Subhana wataala guide you to your struggle and send you the means to sustain yourself and your family.

    How can the readers help you?

  32. Salam, Dear islamic brothers and sisters, i am continually writing on this site since last many months. Myself and my family tired to work hard and pray as much as we can. My two kids of 11 and 9 years, were also joined with us and prayed even Tahajud and keep fasting thrice a week. But no one came to help us. As I wrote earlier about my problems. Anyways, now since last June, 2010, I am jobless, whatever was in my hand are spent. My home is let out to survive on heavy deposit. My kids are admitted in hostel as I am unable to keep them with me. My wife only stand next to me. I was appointed by UAE Co. and deposited Rs.35000 (taken from my Aunty as loan). But agent still telling me to wait. How long I dont know? Now my wife and self staying with my parents in a one room. Is this the rewards for hard prayers??? Please advice me what to do. I only trust in Allah and Allah making my ways like this………

    • Salaam u Alaikum brother.

      It easy to bypass other peoples problems by simply saying it is a will of ALLAH (swt) and we are being tested. This does not however help your situation in anyway. Yes it is the will of God and yes we are being tested. But at the same time we need to look at ourselves / our decisions and try to perfect them. Praying and fasting will not ward off the effects of your bad judgments and decisions. ie I can pray 24hrs a day for 20 years to ask God for an immortal life, and upon death i cannot ask god “Is this the rewards for hard prayers”. In your situation you need to write down all the issues you have. You will find there is one root cause for all your problems ie the high payment to your agent who has disappeared; and now this is causing you hardship and creating a problem on problem ripple effect. Yes, keep praying that your agent comes back with good news, and the same time think about how to get your family together again. Get part-time jobs etc, ask friends and family for help, and as the Holy Quran says: “Wast’eenoo bissabre wassalat” (ask for help through ‘sabr’ (patience) & ‘salat’ (prayer). These will guide you. But you must actively do things to improve your situation and not just Pray and hope it happens miraculasly. God helps those who help themselves. wassalam and I pray things get better for you. Ameen.

    • Asalaam o alaikum sister M,
      May Allah Subhanawataala give you what is best for you and give you the strength to bear the change if that is what is best for you.
      May He Subhanawataala give you the vision to recognise what is going to bring you closer to Him Subhanawataala and what is just and right.
      May Allah Subhanawataala give you the best in this world and the Hereafter. Ameen!

  33. AS SALAAM ALAI KUM WR,
    I had gone through the article of SABR but as for me its very difficult,please brother & sister in Islam do dua for me,
    I am suffering from my personal problem,since only son( no brother and no sister), i have old parents at home,our family is religious and value Islam but my in laws has ruined my happiness just for worldly sake.They accuse us of being outdated family,who has no charm of living in this advance world.My health ,my business and peace has been badly suffered.
    I am not at all concentrating on my business or at home,feeling very lonely & helpless.
    I do pray all the five obligatory Salah.
    Please do dua that happieness comes back to my family and ALLAH help us so we unite.
    I am advised to keep sabr on this.
    Please suggest any dua that ease my suffering.

    Jazak Allah

    • wa laikum Asalaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatahu,
      Inshallah this too shall pass,
      we are promised that no pain in this world goes unrewarded in the Hereafter.

      Sabr is for Allah and to know that He will repay you manifold!

      DO not worry about what dunya says as they can neither improve nor “ruin” your happiness, only Allah can, so ask Him Subhanawataala to help you and inshallah He will in His infinite Mercy.

    • i am very sorry for your situation my brother
      Inshallah may Allah bring you happiness as soon as possible, Allah knows when the best time is and you will only realize why you went through the hardship when Allah brings you out Inshallah, there is a great wisdom behind every hardship and trail and one of the best ways to benefit from it is to be very thankful for the affliction.

      there is afew wise saying from the Holy Prophet Saw and his Ahlulbayt… ponder over them it should help inshallah

      Imam Sajjad (a.s.) says:

      There are two actions, towards which, a step taken is liked by Allah more than anything else. One is the step taken to join a row formed in the name of Allah (for Jehad or Namaz); the second is the one taken to extend a hand of friendship towards kith and kin who want to break relations.

      (Behaarul Anwaar)

      The Holy Prophet (s.a.w.s.) said:

      “Certainly there is a section in Paradise which can not be attained except by three kinds of people. First the just Imam, second, the one who does Sileh Rahmi, and third the one who has family (and children) but remains patient (in poverty and difficulties).

      Imam Ja’far as-Sadiq (a.s.) says:

      “The kindness towards relative and goodness towards the believing brother makes easy your reckoning on the Day of Judgement and protects you from sins. So you should be kind to your relatives and be good to your believing brothers even if it is as little as a sincere ‘salaam’ (salutation) or a hearty reply to a salaam.”

      The Holy Prophet (s.a.w.s.) says:

      “If any one betrays trust with you, do not betray trust with him or you will also become like him. Similarly, do not break ties with your relatives even if they do so.”

      (Behaarul Anwaar)

      Ahlul Bayt have been delineated in the Quran (Surah 33, Ayah 33) and purified by Allah (Most High) from sin, religious error, or forgetfulness (Ismah). Ahlul Bayt consist of Muhammad (pbuh), his daughter Fatima, his son-in-law and cousin Ali, and his two grandchildren Al-Hasan and Al-Husain. And of the progeny of Al-Husain are the nine designated Imams: Zainul Abideen, Al-Baaqir, Al-Saadiq, Al-Kadhim, Al-Ridha, Al-Taqi, Al-Haadi, Al-Askari, and Al-Mahdi —may peace be with them,

      THE HOLY QURAN SPEAKS ABOUT AHLUL BAYT
      None of the Sahaaba had ever received the recognition or was ever referred to in the Quran as much as Ahlul Bayt were, in particular Ali. To delve in the Quran in search of the referrals to Ahlul Bayt, the researcher finds three different types; some are specific by designation, others are specific by alluding, yet others are non‑specific but understood (hints). Thus the referrals can roughly be categorized in the following fashion:

  34. My family have had many problems over the past years. I cannot recall when was the last time since we saw some happiness. I feel for my parents especially, because they constantly see their children suffer, and for them it is unbearable.
    My brother Habib was ever so caring and loving, and was loyal to his friends and family. He has done umrah three times, and always made zikhr, prayed 5 times, remembering Allah constantly.

    Last year he became involved in a serious predicament, where sadly two people died. His friends sister was having an affair (this only came to surface after the trial), and Habib and others were duped and misled. The person who orchestrated this indeed have had bad intentions, but these boys did not. While Habib was outside the house, the other two boys caused fire by pouring petrol.

    They had no motive or intentions to kill. They did not go there to harm anyone. What became of this was tragic. Two people died, and three children were orphaned.

    It is sad for all those who were involved, especially the victims family.

    I cannot justify what habib did, he did wrong, only to a part where he was there. He did not cause the fire, he had no motive, no intentions, just simply misled because of his naivety and his nature.

    Please can you advise us what is there we can do. My parents have been besides themselves, constantly praying and doing ibadah. They are currently in Umrah.

    • Asalaam o alaikum,
      Allah Subhanawataala tests us in many ways, here your parents, your brother and his friends and you are in a test, follow the guidelines in the article and wipe out sins and mistakes with hasanaats, sadaqaats and good deeds. May Allah accept the istighfaar from you and your family.
      This world is temporary, prepare for the perpetual world, it is more permanent and you would want to have a better place there, inshallah.
      My prayers are with your parents and you, it is a painful predicament.
      May they come out with sabr and more sabr.

  35. Salaam,

    I and my partner(other faith)planned to marry, but always we faced obstacles. He forcefully got married and planning to leave that girl and come back to me. I am praying to Almighty to grant him hidayath and guide him to lead a life of a muslim.
    I always believed in Allah SWT and all my partners marriage problems are solved. Now, whenvever we plan for marriage thru converting to islam, we are facing hurdles.
    PLease pray for us.

    Allah Haafiz

  36. Salam,

    Brother i have a suggestion, if possible, please disply ALLAH’s Ninety Nine names at the top of the screen. Because these names belongs to that place. Allah O Akbar………..Allah is Awallo…….

    Please make it possible.

    Wasssalam.

  37. Salam,
    Brother, we lost pur happiness. Day by day new circumstances comes and make us unhappy. Each day we try to pass with respect but………………….Kindly kindly make special pray for us. Ask Allah to forgive our sins. Please do something…….

    Wassalam

  38. Assalam Alaikum brother and sisters tonight i was thinking of how i should control ma anger and have sabar,mashallah reading all the comments it has put peace in my heart.thankyou may allah blees uxx allah hafiz

  39. asqfish & USM,

    assalam alaykum…. You don’t know how much my heart fluttered reading your comments. I really appreciate that you took time out of your lives to reply to me. Your words consoled and supported me in every way.

    Alhamdulillah, everyone is feeling better now. I guess it all wears off with time. But I don’t want it to. I don’t want to forget the powerful lesson it taught me.

    I’m going to start working soon so I will make a list of resolutions like USM suggested because I don’t want to get caught up in work and studies making my deen take the backseat. It happens to so many people.

    Thanks for comforting me. I read all your words again and again and derived strength from them. May Allah reward you for your efforts. I’m sure many people remember you in their duas as I did in mine.

    Love,
    Pondering Soul

  40. aassalamuaallaaykum to all my brothers & sisters.few days back, my brother expired in a road accident. please pray for him,that he should get higher then the highest place in jannah.

  41. asalaamo alaikum USM,
    May Allah reward you for providing solace to a distressed soul.
    I was at the retreat on Tazkiyah nafs, more on that later.
    May you continue to gather the ilm and transform it into Amal.

    Please keep me in your prayers.

  42. Asalaam o alaikum was rahmatullah e wa barakatahu Pondering Soul,

    May Allah Subhanawataala bless you!

    He has given you a special protection. When you love someone deeply and he or she is taken from you, you can react in many ways.

    ‘Alhamdollilah Allah Subhanawataala had strengthened you with emaan and the concept of Akhirah before your dear grandfather died.

    May Allah Subhanawataala, ease his time in the grave and grant him the best level in Jannah.

    He has left you behind as his Sadaqa e Jariya with all the ilm packed with his love in the books he gave you, so read them and recite the Quran and pray for the salvation of your grandfather.

    There is a beautiful dua that you can recite in tashahud for parents and grand parents. It is on the blog.

    As for crying, believe me you will cry one day at the most unexpected moment, some small thing will touch you, a fragrance, a smile, a friend, a book, and you will be reminded of the love of your grandfather and you will cry………….

    Do let yourself cry if and when that happens.
    Meanwhile prepare for Akhirah with night Qiyaam and what ever else is in the Quran and Sunnah and be kind to others, because even though they are not crying you don’t know if their heart is weeping.

    May Allah protect you and keep you on the path of Allah.

  43. Walaikum Salaam pondering soul,

    I am sure sister Asqfish is tied up with something, as she would have replied by now if otherwise.

    mashAllah, your post is an apt reminder for all of us that we do indeed belong to Allah and to Him is our return.

    Your response to the death of your grandfather is not hypocritical but a reflection of your increasing faith and your upward spiral inshAllah to your ultimate goal. If the death of people close to us is not able to motivate us to draw closer to Allah and convince us of the reality of the dunya then there are very few other things that can.
    Not being able to cry is not a marker of love, but simply a variation of a human’s grieving process. Each of us will react differently to grief and loss, your tears will come but in their own time.
    For now utilise your zeal to change and draw closer to your creator by making some new resolution or performing additional acts of worship the rewards of which you can dedicate to your grandfather and make it a ource of light for him in his grave.

    May Allah bless us all with the strength and courage to attain His nearness.

  44. Assalam Alaykum…Thank you so much for this post,

    I recently lost my dear Granddad, whom I loved very much. I loved being near him, listening to every word he spoke. I loved him and longed to meet him and be with him though everyone else turned away from him. Because of a mistake he made, even his close relatives and family felt angry with him and turned away from him. But I was always on his side, always, because I loved him deeply.

    I am a very emotional person. However, when I heard the news of his death abroad, I did not cry at all. I said neutrally, “Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’un… Everyone has to die.”

    Everybody thought I was going to weep and lose consciousness and take it very negatively because I was so close to him – so they were shocked to see me taking it so lightly.

    I am a teen who reverted to true Islam just about a year ago and it is my Granddad who strengthened my faith and bought me so many hadith books, which I shall read and ponder whenever I can.
    I came to your site because I was beginning to get concerned as to why I didn’t cry. I feared I might be a hypocrite showing what seems to be ‘strength’ in this matter and yet feeling like a weak believer in other aspects. My goal is to be a strong believer no matter what happens, to live and die in a state of iman. My Granddad’s unexpected death has shaken me – but I feel there is no time to dwindle in self-pity and remorse – I feel a sense of urgency – to start preparing for the Akhirah now.

    …I’m really sorry for this long post but I really needed somebody to talk to. Thank you for listening to me.

    Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’un.

  45. Alahamdollillah! Sabr is the secret door to Allah’s presence. It is the code that tells Allah that we truly submit to His will, whatever it may be.

    May Allah Subhanawataala grant you what is best in this world and the next!

  46. Assalam o Alaikum
    i was searching on web for sabr and i found this site so helpful and it made my heart so calm.Alhumdulillah.
    I dont have kids and want badly and pray as much for it as i can. but sumtime i become so inpatient. Now i ‘ll try more to focus on Allah’s saying. Plz pray for me and thanx for such guidence.

  47. Wassalm, Jazak Allah for reply. Brother, Alhumdulillah we, me, my wife, my son 11yrs and 7yrs, all are praying Salah, Alhumdulillah not even 5 times but six times including Tahjood. we fast thrice in a week. I am having uncut beared since last 20yrs. I try not to break anyones heart.My wife is alos doing the same.Alhumdulillah we are doing many things to make Allah happy. Rest is upon Allah. Even v r in such a situations. But i strongly sure Allah will solve all of my problems Insha Allah. Pray 4 us. Allah Hafiz

  48. Asalaam o alaikum brother Ansari,
    The best prayer is that which comes from the heart with istighfaar and a promise to change ourselves. To obey Allah and stay away from disobediences.

    Evaluate your life and sift out what is with the Deen and what is not.

    May Allah grant you peace.

  49. Salam,

    Where was u?? i miised u a lot.
    Please do prayer for us. Myself and my family are in unwanted difficulties.Everyday some worng things happens with us.I am totally looser now. Its Ramzan, pleasse pray in ur valuable duwa to overcome our difficulties.

    Jazak Allah
    Wassalam

  50. Walaikum Asalaam Mrs Aamir,
    Nothing happens overnight, but it brews slowly.
    I dont know enough about you to give you advice, but the little that I glean from your note, it seems you need Tazkiyah Nafs to control your Nafs (talking and eating excessively is an expression of a Bahemi nafs out of control)/
    To figure out what I am saying and if it applies to you, search for all the posts on Tazkiyah Nafs or Nafs and review them to see if it helps you.
    Meanwhile recite la howla wala quwata……….tp yourself when you have the desire to speak or you are angry or irritated.
    May Allah Subhanawataala make you capable of meeting the challenge.

  51. assalamualikum. please guide me as to how to keep my mouth shut. i cant keep it shut. i am at the verge of breaking, i try for sabr with my husband but when its comes to talk to him, i always loose control and CANNOT SHUT UP. please guide me as to how to keep my mouth shuut. i know this is no sabr but i cant help it anymore. im married for six years , we shared aprfect married life but now all of a sudden, my husband wants kids na second marriage and he and his family torture in ways emotionally destructive. plz pray fo r my sabr.and guide how to control myself in front of him.

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  54. Walaikum asalaam,

    All guidance is from Allah in His book. You and I and all our friends who comment here are the means of spreading the truth and sharing the light of the Quran.

    May Allah Subhanawataala help us to help each other.

  55. Sr Amina: May Allah Subhanawataala give you strength, ability and faith to do the right thing and remain on the straight path while doing it,
    Ameen

  56. I am going through hardship and I’m finding it difficult to get to terms with.I’ve been married for 11years and my husband secretly got married knowing well that it would cause problems in our marriage. I also have 3 children.Please make dua that I have sabr.

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  58. Walaikum asalaam wa rahmatullah e wabarakatahu,
    Repeat this dua when the fear of anyone other than Allah tries to enter your heart:
    اللّهُـمَّ لا مانِعَ لِما أَعْطَـيْت، وَلا مُعْطِـيَ لِما مَنَـعْت، وَلا يَنْفَـعُ ذا الجَـدِّ مِنْـكَ الجَـد .

    “Allaahumma laa maani‘a limaa a‘tayt, wa laa mu‘tiya limaa mana‘t. Wa laa yanfa‘u dhal-jaddi minkal-jadd.”

    “Ô Allaah, none can prevent what You have willed to bestow. And none can bestow what You have willed to prevent. And no wealth or majesty can benefit anyone, as from You is all wealth and majesty.”

    and also repeat it after every salaah.
    May Allah take the fear of others out of our hearts.

  59. Assalaam Alykum,

    Nowadays i m scared with N’AAS. thats not good i have to fear only ALLAH SWT. What to do?

    Please guide.
    Wassalaam

  60. Walaikum Asalaamwa rahmatullah he wa barakatahu!

    The best dua comes from the heart of the person in need,

    May Allah SWT draw you nearer to Him everyday.

  61. Courtesy of: http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/Satellite?cid=1123996016300&pagename=IslamOnline-English-AAbout_Islam/AskAboutIslamE/AskAboutIslamE

    How to Perform Tahajjud (Optional Late Night Prayer)
    Question
    Salam,
    My question is that I want to know the opinion of scholars and the teachings of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) on how to perform Tahajjud (optional late night Prayers).

    Answer by:
    Name of Counselor
    Taqwa Saifulhaq

    Answer
    Salam
    Thank you very much for your question.

    Actually your question is highly important for every Muslim. Tahajjud Prayer is part of the Sunnah of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), which Muslims are preferred to follow all the time.

    In his famous work, Fiqh As-Sunnah, Sheikh Sayyid Sabiq elaborates on the subject as follows:

    Ordering His Messenger to perform Tahajjud, Allah Almighty says what means:

    *{And during a part of the night, pray Tahajjud beyond what is incumbent on you; maybe your Lord will raise you to a position of great glory.}* (Al-Israa’ 17:79)

    This order, although it was specifically directed to the Prophet, also refers to all Muslims, since the Prophet is a perfect example and guide for us in all matters.

    Moreover, performing Tahajjud Prayers regularly qualifies one as one of the righteous and makes one earn Allah’s bounty and mercy. In praising those who perform the late night Prayers, Allah says what means:

    *{And they who pass the night prostrating themselves before their Lord and standing.}* (Al-Furqan 25:64)

    Next to these Qur’anic verses, there also exist a number of hadiths that reinforce the importance of Tahajjud.

    `Abdullah ibn Salam reported:

    “When the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) came to Madinah, the people gathered around him and I was one of them. I looked at his face and understood that it was not the face of a liar. The first words I heard him say were: ‘O people, spread the salutations, feed the people, keep the ties of kinship, and pray during the night while the others sleep, and you will enter Paradise in peace.’” (At-Tirmidhi.)

    Salman Al-Farsi quoted the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) as saying:

    “Observe the night Prayer; it was the practice of the righteous before you and it brings you closer to your Lord and it is penance for evil deeds and erases the sins and repels disease from the body.” (At-Tabarani)

    Etiquette of Prayer

    The following acts are recommended for one who wishes to perform the Tahajjud Prayer:

    * Upon going to sleep, one should make the intention to perform the Prayers. Abu Ad-Darda’ quoted the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) as saying:

    “Whoever goes to his bed with the intention of getting up and praying during the night, but, being overcome by sleep, fails to do that, he will have recorded for him what he has intended, and his sleep will be reckoned as a charity (an act of mercy) for him from his Lord.” (An-Nasa’i and Ibn Majah)
    * On waking up, it is recommended that one wipes the face, use a toothbrush, and look to the sky and make the supplication which has been reported from the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him).

    Abu Hudhaifa reported:

    “Whenever the Prophet intended to go to bed, he would recite: (With Your name, O Allah, I die and I live).” And when he woke up from his sleep, he would say: (All the Praises are for Allah Who has made us alive after He made us die (sleep) and unto Him is the Resurrection.)” (Al-Bukhari)

    * One should begin with two quick rak`ahs and then one may pray whatever one wishes after that. `A’ishah said:

    “When the Prophet prayed during the late-night, he would begin his Prayers with two quick rak`ahs.” (Muslim)
    * It is recommended that one wakes up one’s family, for Abu Hurairah quoted the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) as saying:

    “May Allah bless the man who gets up during the night to pray and wakes up his wife and who, if she refuses to get up, sprinkles water on her face. And may Allah bless the woman who gets up during the night to pray and wakes up her husband and who, if he refuses, sprinkles water on his face.” (Ahmad)

    The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) also said:

    “If a man wakes his wife and prays during the night or they pray two rak`ahs together, they will be recorded among those (men and women) who (constantly) make remembrance of Allah.” (Abu Dawud.)
    * If one gets sleepy while performing Tahajjud, one should sleep. This is based on the hadith narrated by `A’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her), who quoted Allah’s Messenger as saying:

    “When one of you gets up during the night for Prayer and his Qur’anic recital gets mixed up to the extent that he does not know what he says, he should lie down.” (Muslim.)

    Recommended Time for Tahajjud

    Tahajjud may be performed in the early part of the night, the middle part of the night, or the latter part of the night, but after the obligatory `Isha’ Prayer (night Prayer).

    While describing the Prophet’s way of performing Prayer, Anas (may Allah be pleased with him) said:

    “If we wanted to see him praying during the night, we could see him praying. If we wanted to see him sleeping during the night, we could see him sleeping. And sometimes he would fast for so many days that we thought he would not leave fasting throughout that month. And sometimes he would not fast (for so many days) that we thought he would not fast during that month.” (Al-Bukhari, Ahmad and An-Nasa’i.)

    Commenting on this subject, Ibn Hajar says:

    “There was no specific time in which the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) would perform his late night Prayer; but he used to do whatever was easiest for him.”

    Best Time for Tahajjud

    It is best to delay this Prayer to the last third portion of the night. Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) quoted the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) as saying:

    “Our Lord descends to the lowest heaven during the last third of the night, inquiring: ‘Who will call on Me so that I may respond to him? Who is asking something of Me so I may give it to him? Who is asking for My forgiveness so I may forgive him?’” (Al-Bukhari)

    `Amr ibn `Absah (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that he heard the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) saying:

    “The closest that a slave comes to his Lord is during the middle of the latter portion of the night. If you can be among those who remember Allah the Exalted One at that time, then do so.” (At-Tirmidhi)

    The Number of Rak`ahs in Tahajjud

    Tahajjud Prayer does not entail a specific number of rak`ahs that must be performed, nor is there any maximum limit that may be performed. It would be fulfilled even if one prayed just one rak`ah of Witr after `Isha’.

    Samurah ibn Jundub (may Allah be pleased with him) said:

    “The Messenger of Allah ordered us to pray during the night, a little or a lot, and to make the last of the Prayer the Witr Prayer.” (At-Tabarani and Al-Bazzar)

    I hope this answer is satisfactory. Thank you again for your question and please keep in touch.

    My take on this:
    Every muslim should own a copy of FIQH SUNNAH listed above as a reference
    I have prayed two to six rakahs and sometimes more, right uptill fajr. Allah knows best.

  62. thajjud is two rakat nafils prayers right? with any surah? is there a certain way too pray it please tell me with details thank you..

  63. Asalaamoalaikum,
    Tonight get up early and pray Tahajjud and ask Allah SWT to send you help………and inshallah he will help you.
    May Allah protect you and keep you in the folds of his mercy.

  64. I am really trying and everything u are saying i understand but idk why i still want too marry this person this person doesnt want too be with me and is very happy with their current mate lol i just thought idk u know when u dont do anything in life and then u decide to be with someone trusting them thinking you will marry them and it doesnt work out ur world crashes and plus i moved so im like four hours away now i never see him or hear from him… he said i wasnt good enough and he thought i was pity … he never loved me and he used me it hurts alot because i thought i was smarter …its really nice that your answering me because its helping me im trying really hard too never go back or talk too this person……i ask allah for patience every second but there are days im really weak….idk what to do i want too know why im still waiting..

  65. Asalaam o alaikum, la illaha illallah,

    this person did cheat on me and misused my faith and trust

    Inshallah Allah SWT took you away from this person because he is not worthy of you and inshallah has something and someone better planned for you.

    Stay away from the disobediences of ALlah, block all your calls and texts and email from him and go to the masjed and meet with people who pray and fast and try a different company of people of Deen.

    Inshallah you will heal and then find someone who will be an equal partner in your journey to jannah.

    If you continue to go to the swamp you will continue to get dirty, try the company of people of Deen even though they are not your current friends. Leave the circles that brought you to this “cheating” person.

    Allah SWT helps those who ask for help and then follow the help he gives.

  66. Thank you inshallah this helps , however since i am waiting do you think i should? because this person did cheat on me and misused my faith and trust however i believe they will marry me am i being insane or is it normal too feel this way?

  67. Thank you soo much for answering my….i know im suppose too help my self out of this situation however it hurts because i thought this person was my soul mate and i still wait because i believed everything happens once i really didnt think he would take me for every other girl … idk what too do i know allah does everything for a reason and there has too be a reason after this .. however for the time being how can i help my self from thinkin about the memories….

  68. Walaikum Asalaam wa rahmatullah hi wa barakatahu,
    When ever Allah SWT changes events for us, it is usually for our own good both in this world and in the Akhirah.
    I cannot advise you except to say what I have been advised: look into your heart, “what did I do wrong” and make sincere Istighfaar:

    Because: “Truly Allah is Oft Forgiving and All-Compassionate” Quran 2:173

    then fast for at least three days and if you are still having desire for someone haraam to you then fast some more and pray extra nafil.

    The time that you used to spending with him, go to the masjed or do volunteer work for the poor at that time, do not sit and obsess about him.

    Ask Allah SWT to Help you He is the best helper.
    Call upon Him:

    He is Al Mujib “One who answers All”

    “And when my servants question you concerning Me——I am near to answer the call of the caller, when he calls to Me” Quran 2:186

    “He answers those who believe and do righteous deeds and He enriches them through, of His bounty” Quran 42:26

    May Allah SWT guide you to what is good for you in this world and the Hereafter.

  69. Asalamualaikum i have lost the one i love they have left me for another girl i know its haram to date however i really thought we would get married but he left me and said i wasnt good enough now i ache and i want too marry him i know this is all a test and i have been taken away from haram however its soo hard too forget and let go the memories keep coming back too me what do i do? please help me i have alot of faith in Allah tell me what too do that will make me forget and let things be…

  70. Assalaam Alykum,

    Jazak Allah for guidience, we all ask Allah SWT to give us more sabr. Inshal Allah with the help of momin’s duwa, Allah give us peace , happyness and success very soon. Amin.

    Please keep us remeber in your duwa.
    Wassalaam

  71. Waliakum Asalaam wa rahmatullah hi wa barakatahu,
    As you are experiencing, this life is made of tests, inshallah in the Hereafter we will find peace.

    IMHO reading the Sunnah and the life of our beloved Prophet Muhammad PBUH helps as we walk in his footsteps and feel with him his trials and tribulations to realize, understand and empathize what he went through and how he held on to Allah’s obedience
    .
    May Allah subhanawataala strengthen our obedience to Him.

  72. Assalaam-o-Alykum,

    Brother, we are again in bad times. I dont know where did I go wrong? May Allah SWT taking our test. But as much as I know myself, I am not a Wali, Abid or something like that. I am a simple person who trust in Allah only. And try to do as much as dhikr or salaat. Please dua to Allah not to take my more test. I a very weak person. Please do for us as much as you can.

    Allah give you good rewards.
    Allah Hafiz

  73. Walaikum Asalaam wa rahmarullah hi wa barakatahu Br. Mohammed,

    Pray and do Dhikr in good times and tense times, and hold tight to the rope of Allah SWT at all times.

    Try to give up some dunya and replace with Dhikr and salaat, inshallah it will help.

    May Allah SWT change your orientation towards Him permanently.

  74. Reassuring to know that Allah listens to the prayers of those who suffer injustice first; finding this out makes me feel less traumatized about all the wars and injustices that people suffer from.
    Knowing that Allah hears their prayers first, lightens my heart.
    Allahu Akbar!

  75. As far as I know it is Hadith. “The prayer of the opressed (whether muslim or not), and a traveler does not go unanswered”

  76. “Allah listens to the prayer first of one on whom injustice has been done.”
    Alfu shukrin wa shukrun.

    I found this very inspiring.
    Is the above from the Quran or Haddith? If so, would you kindly quote the source?

  77. Assalaam Alukum,

    Jazak Allah brother, Insha Allah me and my all pray for other muslims who are in need of duas and have difficulty. May Allah blesses them with His Rehama> Ameen.
    Eid Mubarak
    Wassalaam

  78. Walaikum Asalaam, Khair Mubarak! when ever we pray from the heart Allah Subhanawataala listens and gives us what is good for us! Inshallah.

    Please keep me and my family in your duas.

  79. Br M walaikum asalaam wa rahmatullah wa barakarahtahu…………..Alhamdollillah that your problems resolved, remember to pray for others who are in difficulty the world over and to give lots and lots of sadaqa to show gratefulness to Allah by being generous with His creation:)

    Br I asalaam o alaikum, I pray with you that we may be in the Sabireen it is truly an elevated position to be in.
    May Allah Subhanawataala assist you and me in explaining what is complex in a simple manner so that Allah’s message gets out to each and everyone we know personally.
    May Allah reward you for your efforts.

  80. I googled the word ‘sabr’ because I really was fed up with a certain situation but i wanted to remind myself of what really mathers and why things happen and i bumped into this internet site.

    the value of patience is expressed so clearly and the way brothers and sisters, support each other through all times makes life worth living.

    yes indeed, hardship is part of life and when hurt or surprised we say the most stupid things.

    inschaallah we’ll be with the sabirien, cause allah swt is with them.

    salam,

    ikram

  81. Assalaam Alykum,

    Alhumdulillah Allah’s best blesses showers on us and my all problems has been solved. Jazak Allah Kherakum. Please keep remember us in your valuable duwas. We need that most.

    Insha Allah Allah never let us alone. Ameen

    Allah Hafiz

  82. Walaikum Asalam wa rahmatullah wa barakatahu,
    May Allah Subhabawataala keep you (and me) awake on the odd nights and focus our hearts and minds on connecting with Him Jalayjalalahu.
    Ameen

  83. Assalaam Alykum,

    Alhamdulillah, 19th Ramadan is going on. Insha Allah, Allah accepted our all good wishes. Ameen

    Remember us in ur duas.

    Allah Hafiz

  84. Assalam Alykum,

    Please be remember us in ur Ramadan’s valuable duwas. Insha Allah our all problems will get solved at earliest.

    Allah Subhanaow Ta’ala hum sub ke roze namaz kobol kare. Amin

    Wassalaam

  85. Assalaamalykum,

    Insha Allah i will try m y best to do each n every thing HALAL. Insha Allah Allah will fulfil my duwas.Amin.
    Hopefully praying to Allah u too keep remember us in ur valuable duwas.

    Wassalaam

  86. Walaikum asalaam wa rahmatullah e wa barakatahu brother,

    Perhaps a lot of Durood, salawaat sent to Prophet Muhammad PBUH and Istighfaar and continuing to remain hopeful and continue to make a halal rozi, eat halal and work halal as well as fulfill all the rights of Allah and then do dua.
    Inshallah Allah SWT always answers your dua in a way that is best for you!

  87. Assalaam Alykum,

    Plz duwa for my and my family’s PATIENCE. That we are very helpless. Except Allah we are not seen anyone with us. And …..plz do more n more duwa for us.

    Jazak Allah Khair

  88. Aslaaamoalaikum Aina! The best dua of forgiveness comes from the heart of the person who wants forgiveness,
    fasting on the 15th of Shabaan and seeking forgiveness from anyone and everyone that you may have wronged pleases Allah SWT while He (SWT) reviews our book of deeds on that night.

    Dua: May Allah SWT show His mercy and forgiveness to you and may you only yearn for the path to jannah in all your thoughts and deeds!
    Ameen

    • Asalamalaykum, jazakAllahukhiran for all the benefit MarshAllah.

      May I ask in ref. to the statment:

      “fasting on the 15th of Shabaan and seeking forgiveness from anyone and everyone that you may have wronged pleases Allah SWT while He (SWT) reviews our book of deeds on that night.”

      where is the evidence for this statment, only I have been lead to belive that it is an act of bidah to specify the 15th Shabaan. I have added some fatwas reguarding this issue.

      Specifying the day of the 15th of Sha’baan by fasting or reciting the Qur.aan or performing naafilah prayers

      Question: We see some people specifying the 15th of Sha’baan with particular supplications and reciting the Qur.aan and performing naafilah prayers. So what is the correct position concerning this, and may Allaah reward you with good?

      Response: That which is correct is that fasting the 15th of Sha’baan or specifying it with reciting (the Qur.aan) or making (particular) supplications has no basis. So the day of the 15th of Sha’baan is like any other 15th day of other months. So from that which is known is that it has been legislated for a person to fast the 13th, 14th and 15th of every month, however, Sha’baan is characterised unlike the other months in that (except for Ramadhaan) the Prophet (sal-Allaahu `alayhe wa sallam) used to fast more in Sha’baan than any other month . So he used to either fast all of Sha’baan or just a little. Therefore, as long as it does not cause difficulty for a person, it is befitting to increase in fasting during Sha’baan in adherence to the example of the Prophet (sal-Allaahu `alayhe wa sallam).

      Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen
      al-Bid’u wal-Muhdathaat wa maa laa Asla lahu – Page 612
      Fataawa Shaykh Muhammad Ibn Saalih al-’Uthaymeen – Volume 1, Page 190

      ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

      Standing the night of the 15th of Sha’baan in prayer and fasting during it’s day

      Question: Is standing the night of the 15th of Sha’baan in prayer and fasting during it’s day legislated?

      Response: Nothing firm and reliable has been established on the authority of the Prophet (sal-Allaahu `alayhe wa sallam) that he stood in prayer in the night and fasted during the day of the 15th of Sha’baan. So the night of the 15th of Sha’baan is like any other night, and if someone is a regular worshipper during other nights, then he may stand the night in prayer on this night without assuming anything special (because of it being the night of the 15th of Sha’baan). This is because specifying a time for any act of worship requires a authentic proof, so if there is no authentic proof then the act is regarded as an innovation and all innovations are misguidance. Likewsie, regarding specifically fasting during the 15th day of Sha’baan, then no (authentic) proof has been established on the authority of the Prophet (sal-Allaahu `alayhe wa sallam) to indicate the legislation of fasting on that particular day.

      As for that which is mentioned from the ahaadeeth regarding this subject, then all of it is weak as the people of knowledge have indicated. However, whoever has the habit of fasting the 13th, 14th and 15th (of every month), then he can continue and fast during Sha’baan as he fasts during the other months, without assuming anything special about the 15th of Sha’baan. Also, the Prophet (sal-Allaahu `alayhe wa sallam) used to increase in fasting during this month (Sha’baan), however, he did not particularise the 15th day, rather proceeded as per norm.

      Shaykh Ibn Fowzaan
      al-Bid’u wal-Muhdathaat wa maa laa asla lahu – Page 614
      Noorun alad-Darb Fataawa Shaykh Saalih Ibn Fowzaan – Volume 1, Page 87

      ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

    • if still u want a Dua….then :
      Allah humma innaka ‘afuwwun tu hibbul ‘afwa f’afu ‘anna
      MAY ALLAH SWT 4GV U ND MAKE A PLACE 4 ALL US MUSLIMZ IN JANNAH
      AMEEN:)

  89. Assalaamualukum,

    Jazak Allah ho kher, Alhumdulillah Allah as HE precribes in HIS quran INNALLAH HO MA’AS SABREEN, proved once again in our life. Allah not only listen our duwa but accepted it too. Amlhumdulillah suma Alhumdulillah now i m still at my place but Allah give situations in my hand (suma Alhumdulillah). Now may i call my family here with all greetings. I am not yet decided. I am doing Istekhara, let what Allah decides better for us. Please you too do duwa to Allah to do better whatever is good for us. Whether i left this country or call family here? Insa Allah Allah will never ler HIS follower alone. You too do for the same.

    Your short notes and comments gives courage, please continue the same. Jazak Allah

    Wassalaam

  90. Walaikum Asalaam wa Rahmatullah wa Barakatahu!
    There are three groups of people that Allah SWT listens to immediately:
    1. A mother
    2. A traveller
    3. The opressed

    If our dua is not being fulfilled perhaps we need more humility, more istighfaar and inshallah with Allah’s help more patience, it may be fulfilled in a way that is unexpected, or may be fulfilled later if that is best for us.

    May Allah SWT listen to all our duas for this dunya and most importantly for the Akhirah and include us in the inhabitants of Jannah.

    May Allah SWT protect you and your family.
    Ameen

  91. Assalaam Alykum,

    Dear muslims,

    Alhumdulillah, Allah has listen our duwas and accepted. Insha Allah our good days are not so far. Please continue praying for us.

    Jazak Allah
    Wassalaam

  92. Assalaam Alykum,

    Yes, i m be patience and waiting for Allah’s best Mercy. And I m sure IT will come soonest, Insha Allah.

    Wassalaam

  93. Assalaam Alykum,

    Jazak Allah for the guidence. I am doing as much as i can. But …………Let see what Allah will do better for me and my family.

    Allah Hafiz

  94. Walaikum Asalaam,
    After completing your fard prayers, you can fast nafil, pray salaat e awabeen (see post in this blog0 and give sadaqa of money or service, and do a tasbeeh of Istighfaar when ever you can all day long:
    Astighfiruka wa atoobualaik!
    Allah listens to the prayer first of one on whom injustice has been done.
    Also the prayers of Istighfaar cleanse our sins.
    may Allah help all of us to cleanse our sins and accept our prayers.

  95. Assaalaam Alykum,

    Jazak Allah asqfinh, Insha Allah Allah listen your duwa faster for me. I would like to kufara of my sins. Can you help me by which way Allah pleases from His believers?

    Jazak Allah
    Wassalaam

  96. Assalaamu Alaikum,

    Dear Muslim Brothers & Sisters,

    I requested you to kindly duwa in favor of me and my family. I need that very much. May Allah listen your duwa faster then others?

    So, please do duwa as much as you can for my freedom as my kids (9/7) and lonely wife is waiting for me at home.

    Jazak Allah
    a brother in need
    Wassalaam

  97. Walaikum Asalaam wa rahmatullah wa barakatahu,
    Inna lil lahi wa inna elayhe rajaown, May Allah SWT forgive the shortcomings of your mother, may he prevent the difficulties in the grave for her, may He every moment elevate her level towards Jannah and may she find her final abode in Jannat ul Firdous.
    She has left behind something that can smooth her progress to jannah.
    One of the the three things one leaves behind in dunya that can facilitate opening the door to jannah is righteous children.
    Inshallah you will be reading, understanding and reflecting on the Quran and Allah SWT will throw you the rope of sabr, a lifeline and give you light (the Quran) and huda (guidance), and inshallah peace will descend in your heart, and your mother’s progress will inshallah begin towards jannah.
    May Allah SWT give you the patience and His love, and may you be kind and loving to others as your mother was to you.
    Everytime you remember her, do a good deed, and give a small sadaqa of action or money and inshallah Allah SWT will give you sabr and make your journey not only less grievous but purposeful. My prayers are for you and your family.
    We come from Allah and to Him we shall return.
    Ameen

  98. ASSALAMOALAIKUM,
    I AM IN GREAT GRIEF AND SORROW BECAUSE OF MY BELOVED MOTHER HAS PASSED AWAY. THE WHOLE WORLD IS LOOKING LIKE A WASTELAND. SHE WAS A WHOLE WORLD FOR ME AND NOW THE WHOLE WORLD IS FULL OF DARKNESS. THERE IS NOTHING TO SMILE NOTHING TO FEEL HAPPY. BUT I KNOW I CANNOT DO ANYTHING NOW. ALLAH HAS TAKEN AWAY MY MOTHER BECAUSE HE IS POWERFUL AND I AM WEEK. I CAN ONLY SEEK PATIENCE WHICH CAN ONLY BE GRANTED BY ALLAH TAALAH.
    PLEASE PRAY FOR ME AND MY MOTHER.
    IT WILL BE A GREAT KINDNESS.

    • MIAN ABDUL MANNAN bhai, you need to understand death more than praying. If your mother lived a righteous life (praying and obeying Allah’s laws), she’s in heaven now. You need to follow in her footsteps and perhaps try to be more religious. More importantly, you should read the Qur’an and understand it as much as possible. Knowledge will make the pain go away.

      Also, before you read the Qur’an (especially Yasin, chapter 36) pray to Allah to make your mother’s hereafter better. Lastly, i’m the one who disliked your comment.

      • Ignore the part about Yasin. There’s still debate over whether it affects someone who has already passed away. You can google it yourself to get an idea.

      • Asalaam o alaikum,
        Any righteous deed, including reading and following the Quran cannot be in question as to its benefit. It is our Rasool pbuh hadith that a dead person only leaves three things behind and one of those three is a righteous child. Allah knows best!

      • Asalaam o alaikum Brother AK,
        Please read your comment. Would you accept the suggestion of a person who is un empathic? Please practice rewording your thoughts so that they are empathic, have compassion for those hurting and then offer suggestions in a manner that is of a friend and fellow muslim it is then that your suggestion would be acceptable to the person who is hurting.
        JazaikAllah hu Khairan

    • ASSALAMO ALYKUM. ITS NISHAT..I LL PRAY FOR YOU. I M ALSO SUFFERING FROM A HUGE TROUBLE..I CAN UNDERSTAND YOUR PAIN. BELIEVE ALLAH..AND BE PATIENCE..

      • Walaikum asalaam Sister Nishat, May Allah reward you manifold for your compassion, inshallah he will take you out of your trouble if you stick to “Haq”

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  100. Asalaamu alikum wa rahmatullah,

    Sabar and Shukr are beautiful things…

    It was quite intriguing to read about the four levels of patience. I wondered to myself if they corresponded with the three types of brain- reptilian, mammalian and human. I’m not sure exactly…I shouldn’t ramble.

    May Allah give us the courage to be patient, indeed is the best of deeds but also very difficult.

    Jazak’allah khair for sharing this.

    Don’t be sad

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