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“Allah surely loves those who are the Sabireen (patient).” (3:146)

Hardships and ease are a trial for you. Everything Allah chooses for you; from good or evil, is for your benefit. Whatever occurred to you could not have missed you and what missed you could never have reached you. Rewards are only for those who are patient with the Decree of Allah.
Panic and impatience cannot prevent Allah’s Decree. Shakwah (complaining) is contradictory to Sabr (patience). 
 Allah alone can protect you from harm and ease your difficulties. Sabr is obligatory!
If the affliction results from acts of obedience to Allah, such as injury on the battlefield, losing money during Hijrah
(migrating for the sake of Allah), losing a job because of accepting Islam or because one attempts to follow the Sunnah of Allah’s Messenger (Salal-Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) like growing the beard, wearing the lower garment above the ankles, etc, then the affliction is a trial. Whoever bears it with patience will be rewarded and whoever exhibits annoyance may invoke the wrath of Allah upon himself.
If the affliction befalls due to sinful actions, such as illnesses caused by drinking alcohol and using drugs etc, 
 then the affliction is a punishment from Allah. Hasten to avoid all sinful acts and turn towards Allah in
 repentance and ask his forgiveness. Otherwise, know that the punishments of the Hereafter are far more severe and unbearable.
If the affliction is neither connected to neither a good deed nor a sin, such as other kinds of disease and sickness, losing
 a child, or failing in business, then you should evaluate your actions. 
 If you are involved in some kind of disobedience to Allah then the affliction is a punishment for you and a reminder to leave your evil deeds. Otherwise, Allah has caused this affliction to test your patience. The Messenger of Allah (Salal-Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “One amongst the inhabitants of Hell, who had lived a
 life of ease and pleasure in the world, would be made to dip in the Hell Fire only once on the Day of Resurrection. 
 Then he would be asked: ‘O son of Adam, Did you find any comfort. Did you get any blessing?’ He would say: ‘By Allah, no, my Lord!’ Then a person, from the inhabitants of Paradise, who had led the most miserable life (in the world), would be made to dip once in Paradise and it would be said to him: ‘O son of Adam, did you face any hardship or experience any distress?’ he would say: ‘By Allah! No never have I experienced any hardship or distress’.” (Saheeh Muslim, No. 6738)

“And certainly, We shall test you with something of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits, but give glad
 tidings to as-Saabireen (the patient ones). 
 Who, when afflicted with calamity, say: “Inna lillaahi wa Inna Ilaihi Raaji’un (Verily to Allah we belong and verily, to Him we shall return).”
 They are those on whom are the Salawaat (i.e. who are blessed and will be forgiven) from their Lord, and (they are
 those who) receive His Mercy, and it is they who are the guided-ones.” (2:155-157)

The First Level:
Being angry, and this is in various ways: 
 and anger is of two types. The first type of anger is that which is directed toward his Lord. So he becomes angry at what Allah has decreed for him, and this is Haraam (forbidden). 
 And it is possible that this could lead to kufr. Allah said: “And among mankind is he who worships Allah upon the very edge (i.e. in doubt); if good befalls him, he is content therewith; but if a trial befalls him, he turns back on his face (i.e. Reverts back to disbelief after embracing Islam). 
 He loses both this world and the Hereafter. That is the evident loss.” (22:11)
 The second type of anger is expressed by the tongue like making du’aa for destruction or ruin and what is similar to that, and this is Haraam. 
 The third type of anger is expressed by the limbs like slapping the cheeks, ripping clothing, pulling out hair, and similar to that, and all of this is Haraam and in contradiction to patience which is Waajib.
The Second Level:
Being patient, just as in the saying: Patience is like its name – bitter in taste, yet its outcomes are sweeter than honey. 
 The person at this level feels the affliction to weighs very heavy upon him, yet he bears it although he dislikes that it happened. Rather, his Eemaan bears it and restrains him from being angry. So the time of affliction and the time of no affliction is not the same to him, and this (level) is Waajib, because Allah commanded the people to be patient, saying: 
 “And be patient, indeed Allah is with the patient ones.” (8:46)

The Third Level:
Being pleased with the affliction in that the person is pleased with the affliction and whether it happened or not, it is the same to him so he it is not difficult upon him. 
 He does not bear it as if it is something weighing heavy on him, and this (level) is Mustahabb (preferred) and it is not Waajib according to the most correct opinion. 
 The difference between this level and the one before it is apparent because the affliction happening or not happening is the same due to the pleasure of the one on this level. 
 As for the level before it, the affliction is hard upon him, yet he remains patient over it.
The Fourth Level:
Thankfulness and being grateful and this is the highest level. This is that the person thanks Allah for the affliction which has struck him in that he knows that this affliction is expiation for his sins and perhaps a cause for an increase in his good deeds.
 The Prophet (sall-Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “There is no affliction which strikes the Muslim except that
 Allah expiates with it (sins), even with a thorn that may poke him.” (Bukhaaree & Muslim)

Supplication (Dua): O Allah, make us from those who have patience upon hardships and those who are thankful upon Your blessings.


Notes from me:

Allah Subhanawataala says in the Quran:

“Nay, seek (Allah’s) help with patient perseverance and prayer: It is indeed hard, except to those who bring a lowly spirit, Who bear in mind the certainty that they are to meet their Lord, and that they are to return to Him. ” [Quran 2:45-46]

“Allahumma musarrifal-qulubi, sarrif qulubana `ala ta`atika” – O Allah! Controller of the hearts, direct our hearts to Your obedience…ameen


  1. Asalaam o alekum My Name is Moiz and my fiyosae name is Sabnam ujjenwala. We had good relationship understanding and good bounding in each other we were engaged and it has become 1year and suddenly the girl stop talking to me reason not understanding why she is doing. She started ignoring me try to reach her by calling msg she is blocking me from everywhere. And his brother call me n said stop irritating my sister by my msg n call she don’t want to continue with me. But I knw tht she can’t do this way becz she love more than me. There is some pressure from there family. Please help me with wht shuld I do I’m not understanding wht to do and pray for me tht i get my love . +91 8097774301


    • Alaikum Asalaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakaat a hu,
      Brother Moiz, when Allah places a lot of obstacles in a relationship perhaps it is better to look elsewhere. May Allah guide you and make it easy on you.
      JazaikAllah hu Keairan!


  2. Aslamualaikum,
    I am currently living with my mum and granny. I am facing alot of challenges. I have to drop and pick my siblings from school despite I am studying and this is affecting my education becuase I finish early from colege my mother is capable to drop my siblings.
    My mother and granma have hidden all food from me in bedroom there is no food in the kitchen I can’t use the heatres even in this cold weather I get accused of stealing money when I dont steal. I can’t watch Tv neither can I visit my family. I have to buy my own food and everything with my money.
    I dont get much time to read salah and hadiths.
    Few days ago I was reading hadith and my granma kicked the hadith.
    I have been living in this hell for 3 years.
    I am 18 years old mum will never get me married because she wants me to always do work for her and lookafter her.
    is it a sin if I move out and live with my dad, his wife and kids as I can’t take it anymore I feel I will go crazy I’m always crying I have a very bad speech problem I have a very bad stutering problem my granma makes fun of me when I speak even when she has problems.
    My stutering is caused of stress.
    Please can you advice me whether I can live with my dad.
    Jazakallah for reading my message.


    • Walaikum Asalaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatahu,
      I am hearing your side of the story and it is your perspective, all I can say is that you do need to consult with your father and move in with him. Eventually when you are settled you can take your siblings with you to your fathers after that. Perhaps after your departure they will have to undergo similar treatment.
      Go see a speech therapist and get your stutter treated. Study hard and become financially independent and learn to take care of your own daily needs. Review the Quran with tafseer once a day to get strength from it and stay from people who insult the hadith or Quran even if they are relatives ( this is what we is enjoined by Allah).
      May Allah give you strength and courage and spiritual istiqamah to free yourself from abuse and learn to become independent of all except Him SUbhanawataala.
      Inshallah He will help you. Ameen!


  3. Peace and blessings of Almighthy Allah be upon all Muslims…
    At the moment my eyes is full of tears upon writing this email, I am So Devastated and My Heart is really Broken into pieces that the pain in me me now is kinda unbearable,
    I have a White Male Cat about 2years of age who Just Passed Away two days ago like during the day of Arafat/Hajj. He was so Bubbly and Sweet Cat sleeping with me the Sweetest Cat I have ever had in my whole life he is like very healthy and bubbly cuddle Cat and Happy of his life and always spent his time with me just one morning when about to feed them all as our routine he is in pain he was Blocked like Urinary blockage cannot Urinate and Crying in pain i noticed this last month but i gave antibiotic and thanks Allah he became ok even he is peeing blood but atleast he is eating last month and became Normal again until last friday he cannot really urinate and in pain i was like i thought thats not him the night i heard crying moaning cat in pain i thot it was just a cat fite outside until in the morning i found out he cannot barely walk and not eating bcoz usually his routine he was very strong bubbly and loves to eat make the long story short i took him in my room hot compressed him gave him medicine bcoz hoping like last month he would recover but still cannot pee and bloated till I CANNOT HANDLE IT TO SEE MY BELOVED CAT IN PAIN SO WE DECIDED TO RUSH HIM TO VET CLINIC WHEN WE RUSH HIM HE IS STILL LIKE CAN WALK THO IN PAIN AND TOOK HIM BACK HOME GAVE THE MEDS VET PRESCRIBE AND AFTER THAT HE BECOME MORE WEAK CANNOT WALK AND NOT EATING LIKE TWO DAYS AND SAW HIM LIMP HYPO AND CHILLING THAT NIGHT AND FINALLY HUG HIM PUT SOME SUGAR SYRUP HOPING TO REVIVE HIM DUE TO NO FOOD SO HE IS IN HYPO AND CONVULSION SEISURE BUT STILL HE LEFT WHILE IN MY ARMS HUGGING HIM I WAS LIKE CRYING
    Am not Crying now Because of he died for i know Death is Inevitable but I AM CRYING DUE TO GUILT IN MY HEART I FEEL SO GUILTY WHY I RUSH HIM TO VET AND DIDNT JUST LET THE VET ADMIT HIM TOOK HIM BACK HOME AND SEEMS THE CAUSED OF HIS QUICKLY EARLY DEATH BECAUSE OF ME GOD KNOWS I DO NOT HAVE NO INTENTION OF HURTING MY BELOVED CAT WHAT I DID ALL TO MY WHILE HANDSOME CAT IS TO REVIVE HIM IN MY FULL HOPE AND PRAYED TO ALLAH HE WILL RECOVER WITH THOSE MEDICINES GIVEN BY VET DOCTOR BUT SEEMS AFTER I GAVE HIM DIURETIC MED HE BECame more Weak and Started his body Electrolyts shut down and got hypo i Really blame my self for what had happen to my own Cat who Was Sweet and Very lovable i took care of him i did my best to gave him a happy life and i know he is happy with me but that crisis strikes he in Sudden sick got that urinary blockage all i know in my heart what i did till his last breath that i am doing everything what i could afford to help him be okay and to survive but seems he died after all. And the Pain i have in my heart now my own Mother is blaming me for is i didnt took him to Vet he might not die am blaming my self too because maybe my mom was right due to my overcaring for my Cat i caused him early Death 😦 hoping to heart from this site any real comforting words because my heart now is full of Sadness and Guilt for it seem am killing my own Cat for rushing him to Vet or for taking care of him the Wrong way knowing what i did to my beloved baby Boy cat was the Best for him to Survive,for him to be okay because Wallahi God Allah knows i dont want to loss my Cat. I FELT GUILTY MAYBE IF I DIDNT RUSH HIM TO VET MAYBE HE CAN MANAGE OR MAYBE HE STILL BE ALIVE I THOT IT WAS THE BEST WAY TO HELP HIM MY INTENTION IS VERY CLEAN I WANT HIM TO SURVIVE AND TO RECOVER I KNOW ITS HIS QADAR BUT I FEEL IF I DIDNT DO SOMTHING MAYBE HE STILL OKAY PLEASE HELP I AM SO DEVASTATED AND GUILTY TOWARDS MY BELOVED CAT DEATH.

    Peace in the name of Allah,


  4. Allahu azizul hakim.. Allahuakbaar.. I love Allah more than my life.. Because it was gifted by and Allah turned me to the straight way.. I am his servent even if He keep kicks me out in every situation.. Alhamdulillah but I always wants His rahmat..


  5. Salam alaikoum,
    Alhamdulilah, I accept Islam as my way of life in duniyyah and akhira. I was a christianity follower before. Starting from the moment i accept Islam, I am facing difficulties in social life, i loose my job, My families denies me and scratches off my membership in the family, i’ve started doing business and marry and also have a child. I loose everything i do and my Son got Cardiac problem and needed open heart surgury, Alhamdulilah that Allah help me and my son became ok after having surgery in india. And i got another child and start to ressurect in business again. Alhamdulilah suddenly our government prevents me not to do the unique business i’ve started and charged me in Different crimes and corrupted government officials allowed the business for other christianity follower business men and member of the ruling party. At last i took immediate action to leave the country and immigrated to neighbouring country. Because i was wanted to be sentenced for about 15 years and my Lawyer informed me to leave the country. Right now i am in a very difficult hardship in life, eating 1 time in two days. Alhamdulilah. After reading your article about patience, am getting pleased with what am facing all the difficulties in life and became very calm and happy. Alhamdulilah. Allah always knows the best and am keeping to have Duà. In sha Allah a new day will come and this shall too pass. Please have your valuable Duà for me. Jezak Allah for your article. Salamulahi alaikoum


  6. S/A,
    This is so so hard for me to accept if am honest.
    Am 54 and husband committed adultery in 1995 and I found out in 2000. I forgave him and we moved on happily and again he did this from 2010- 2015. This time he gambled all assests and re mortgaged the house. He had multiple affairs with my friend, neighbour and others.
    I had given up my job few years ago and only working two days per week as I had no need to work .
    How can a human being get past this, am finding it difficult and am chronically depressed and regret not leaving him earlier.
    It seems am being punished again and again.


    • ASA, you need to look at what is abuse and what is not and also look at yourself if you are obedient to Allah and then get a good counselor and a good lawyer.
      Recite the Quran daily and ask Allah to give you guidance. May He Subhanawataala give you guidance and help.


      • Thank you for your response it is very much appreciated.
        In fact I always prayed Sarah and have taught my children everything about religion, having been brought up in this country.
        Am a modern women, but religion is part of me and my family is the most important thing in my life, this includes my mums side and my in laws who have been excellent in laws until the truth hit the fan.
        You are right I should still look where am going wrong with religion, but I no longer pray regularly and find I cannot focus.
        Getting a lawyer is an expense I cannot afford and yes I do have a councillor.
        I have beautiful kids and all three support me, but eldest lives abroad and younger two at university.
        It’s not easy to break relationship of 33 years, but I know in my heart I cannot live with him anymore as I don’t respect him nor trust him.
        He wants me to stay, it’s been a year since I found out. I have not had a peaceful moment since.
        To break relations with a family that I have loved is difficult. To make life for myself at this age as a Muslim women is difficult.
        For him, he will find someone, but me I feel I will die a lonely old women.
        Kids will get on with their lives and they should.
        I worked all throughout my pregnancies, gave up my career to raise our kids went back to work full time when youngest was 11. I put my life and sole into this. I made sure I was available to my kids 24/7 and husband.
        I don’t mind moving on, but it is so so difficult. I will have to sell off the house and rebuild again.
        He gambled 1.2 million. It’s difficult to swallow.
        I need prayers to help myself move forward with my head held up high.


      • asa, You have had enough time to know that he will not reform and that he has a gambling addiction among other serious problems:
        1. go to see your doctor and start antidepressant therapy
        2. Walk for one hour daily
        3. get up in the morning an smile at your reflection in the mirror and tell yourself you are beautiful inside out
        4. Fulfill your obligations in islam no matter how challenging: salah, fasting, zakat, sadaqa and reiterating your emaan.
        5. keep your lips moving with istighfaar and thankfulness
        6. How do you know you will die a lonely woman? none of us know our future!
        7. Do not look back
        8. Do not say “What if? ” that is the door of the Shaitann opening into the unknown past that no one can change.
        9. Make one plan daily and follow through mindfully
        10. Do not think of all the zillion things you need to do. one thing each day inshallah Allah will guide you!

        Allah is holding the door open of your golden cage, strengthen your emaan and your physical wellbeing and fly free!
        May ALlah grant you peace, health and guidance.


      • A/S
        Thank you very much for your advise and I will try my utmost to follow.
        I need to stop feeling sorry for myself, but it is hard and I have no choice , but to move forward instead of looking back as I cannot change the past.
        Feeling of failure eats me up and also when I tell the family on both sides. I know my brothers, sister and family will support me 100 percent, but still there is elimate embarrassment.
        Sometimes I feel I should just give him yet another chance and live whatever life I have.
        With duas


      • Allah has given you an open perspective of events, stay in the present and use your inner istiqamah to take steps toward getting out of a way of life that is studded with his disobedience of Allah that affects all of you.
        Allah knows best!


    • Assalamu Alaykum sister. There are a lot of situations like this. You know when Allah (swt) removes somebody important from our lives , it teaches us that the only Being we can truly trust is Allah (swt) alone and He love those that trust Him and His divine plan because He is indeed the best of planners.

      Don’t worry, just keep your patience and you will be rewarded immensely in Jannah and there is something even better waiting for you over there, you will be rewarded with an amazing spouse and he will remain with you for eternity 🙂


      • jazaikAllah hu Khairan! Please remember thatAllah sends help but you have to be close to him with obedience and love. He Subhanawataala asks you to do something even a minor gesture to get the process of healing going. Even Maryam AS in the throes of labor asked for help and she was told to shake the tree and she did and she delivered Jesus AS with ease and was delivered fresh sweet water and dates.
        Movement and action is necessary to get results but they have to be guided with awareness of Allah with taqwa.


      • Thank you Sahema, comforting thoughts and I am trying hard.
        I do not cry over losing him, which will be my decision as he is still waiting for me and doing everything he can to keep him, but I can no longer trust him.
        My regret is whilst he was enjoying himself for from 2010-2015, I lost my life, can he give that back to me?
        I feel used, that is what I hate the most. I find hard to give up my in laws and friends family (friend with whom he was sexting. She is by bhabi’s sister)
        Have to give up all family and close friends, but I have no choice.
        I am getting better little everyday as I now don’t waste my time asking Allah to punish people who have wronged me, my creatures will deal with them. Am asking him to help me move forward and forget the past and enjoy the rest of my life doing what I want to do, might be difficult with fiancé issues, but I guess money does not buy happiness.
        Thank you


  7. Sister,
    I googled ” what is the meaning of patience in islam”, and I found your website. I think I still didn’t get the comprehensive explanation. Perhaps you can elaborate further.

    All the verses quoted and references given are good and pertinent to the topic, but please correct me if wrong, that patience “sabr” is not to be patient on atrocities, wrongdoings, discrimination, abusive languages etc etc without raising your concerns and educated reactions to them. That is when the real “sabr” comes in. Otherwise, where is the test, except that one has only burned himself with lots of rage inside him and proving the opponent that he/she is mightier than him/her. I am no scholar, but I would appreciate if you can send me some links to “real” stories of this kind of “real” sabr.

    It is compulsory for us to retaliate to injustice and then be patient. That retaliation should be within the teachings of islam and not hooliganism, Jazakaallah.

    PS: please make dua for me.


    • ASA Brother, when you practice what Allah has ordained you to do and pass the message as He has commanded you to do, there is lots of opposition, difficulty and strife, for that you need sabr: Allah advises this in Surah Al Asr. One should never compromise on ones Deen as is noted in Surah Hud, and yes “to stop Dhulm and spread goodness is a part of our Deen. It needs a strong emaan and Istiqamah and yes sabr to continue doing it in the face of adversity inshallah.
      The best part of the seerah to read to draw strength and understand sabr is the three years of open air prison with a siege by the Quraish ending with the year of grief and then Mairaaj. It is the best I found in drawing strength from in sabr.
      May Allah help you!


  8. Hello i came here because i have been feeling rather sad. I wont call it depression bc i refuse to be a victim of it but i feel sad constantly and have break down almost everyday. I dont think i face alot of hardships but sch has becoming unbearable for me and i feel o cannot match their standards. I feel really dumb and when that happens i am more afraid at working hard bc of fear of failure. I know i should suck it up and keep making dua but im still the same person, keep falling back into the shitty hole. Can someone help me pls.


  9. Assalaamualaikum. The admin’s topic is very interesting about SABR. I’ve read a couple of questions about problems in life and it’s solution. Giving advice and pacifying a heart broken person is good. But it is not a solution to the problems. The solutions lie with ALLAH (swt) alone. And to gain help from ALLAH (swt) you have to do constant dhikr. There are many hadeeths wherein our most beloved Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) has instructed us to do. The best dhikr is Astaghfaar, Durood, reciting Ayatulkursi and Surah Yasin, etc. it is important to become a spiritual student of good and genuine Imam (or spiritual guide) who can give you wazeefas for particular problems. And see how ALLAH (swt) will ease your life.


  10. Salam alaikum
    My brother is in his fourth year of medical school rotations and is near to complete it but he has been feeling very depressed because it is getting very hard for him to stay in and feels like he cant do any kind of job in his life and wants to give up.He goes see the doctor and still doesnt help at all.He sits in his room all the time,doesnt sit with family much.My family worries a lot about him and my mom constantly prays to allah to make it better for him.Its been more than 6 months since he feels that way.He feel like others are doing so much better in their career but he wont be able to.I dont understand what allah swt has planned for him in this life.If he has another plan then it is not fair to make a person choose that career in the first place and make another career plan when he is almost done with his career.My mom cries in prayers regurlarly,even tahajjud but still prayers dont get answer.Does allah really care about a mothers feelings,if he did then everything would of been normal and better.Allah should not give a person so much pain more then he can control.I know he gives trials,but he should not give many because it effects a person mentally and think of giving up in their life.A person cannot also have sabr for this long because it hurts them more than fire.After every hardship i dont see any ease in my brothers life.Even after 2 years of hardship,people cant wait for him to give him ease.When someone is mentally feeling depressed,sabr cannot be kept


    • Walaikum Asalaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatahu!
      May Allah make it easy on your brother. However some action needs to be taken by his family, like see a physician, remove him from his current environment perhaps, get treatment for his depression, not force him to finish perhaps take a leave of absence, give sadaqa, do good deeds, maybe help the refugees, all will help inshallah.


  11. Asc.
    I have been married for almost 2 years and I am now 6 months pregnant alhamdulilah. The problem is often times I feel like I’m in a loveless marriage. I have found numerous evidence on my husbands phone that would label him unfaithful (msgs between him and other women, videos of him recording statuesque of them etc). He never likes spending time with me and I only see him maybe 1 hour tops everyday. He always tells me he’s busy with work and I should be grateful. Whenever he talks about other things he has this glow about him but I swear it’s not the same with me. He doesn’t do half of the things I request of him even during my pregnancy when I need it most. I have moved across the world to be with him and I have 0 friends here. I cry almost everyday because I feel very unwanted by him. I know when someone looks at me with love and I have NEVER felt that from him. Tbh I’m not bashing my husband but excuse my language I feel like crazy. I hope my duas get accepted and I am able to find peace in my heart in sha Allah.


    • WAS, you need to seek help with counseling, your family members or the local mosque. May Allah guide you. You seem depressed, and alone. GO to the local mosque and ask the sisters for support during and after your pregnancy, deal with your husband after you have delivered and regained your energy and health. Right now look after your health, eat organic, good quality food, think good thoughts, recite the Quran, listen to positive upbeat Khutbas (like those of Mufti Menk) and let the world be. Your Rizq is written you will get it inshallah and so will the baby, Evaluate and handle the relationship issue after the baby.
      Make sure you are financially sound, and that your neighbors know you and that you go to the mosque and ask the sisters to help you. Duas coming your way.


  12. I prayed so much to allah to save my mother but why he didnt listen, even her sister used to tawaf for her life
    relatives pray for her
    we made sadkas
    thousands of relatives prayed for her
    why allah didnt listen….


    • @shahid

      Life and death are in the hands of Allah swt
      We may pray to Allah to give a loved one a long life, however remember each soul has its given date, we cannot escape death, remember this Dunya is temporary and we all have to die one day.
      At times We might not see the wisdom behind a calamity but have sabr and hope that Allah knows best. Walk by faith and not by sight.
      My dear brother, if your mother could say anything to you right now is to make Dua for her, as much as you can. Give charity in her name and learn from that.
      When the time of death is near, nothing can save us, we come in this world alone and we will leave alone, the only thing that will benefit us is our good deeds and ibadat.
      I know it hurts but do not lose faith and question, because that is what shaytaan wants, to misguide us.
      May Allah make it easier for you and your family.


  13. i loved a person very much..but there was fime in my life full off hardships..he left me there..he was my biggest strength..i am only 19..i want to be an i.a.s officer..but now it seems i will never be able to study..i am.completely broken..i tried my he says..that i am fed up of u..what shouldni do


    • ASA Sr Zainab
      Perhaps Allah is showing you a better path. Redirect your love to Allah and ask Him Subhanawataala for help to direct you to what is best for you and what will get you to the peace and gardens of Jannah.
      May Allah be with you always!


    • perhaps u and me are facing the same situation… if so read mine also.. under the name hussain i posted it.. just keep faith in Allah..He is Almighty.. first of all there’s something lagging in us.. which every one should be corrected..
      do namaz regularly… punctually.. and make dua with whole heartedly .. and make time to read Quran.. just do dua when u r feeling to cry .. cry under Almighty Allah.. just keep faith and patience


  14. Asalaamu alikum wa rahmatullah,
    please every one pray for me.i think i got stack,i lead a life which i don’t want.
    i was come abroad with big hope and dream but i pass seven years,,,don’t get anything but only straggling .some days before i was go back home and got married..but now my wife live in my home country and i live in abroad..
    please every pray for me ,may Allah help me for my dream come true and i go back my country.stay with my family.



    • Walaikum asalaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatahu!
      May Allah grant you to go to a place where you may earn halal and live a halal and tayyab life inshallah. Ameen!


  15. llife is so difficult and painfull i never been to happiness still i believe in Allah and the really most important thing is that i cant finish and distrub my self respect which is my selfness no one shoukd change herself for anyone coz no one play her role better then her soooo may Allah give me a parthner who knows all about respect and feelings and thee most precious is respect for me


  16. Asalaam Aleikum to my all brothers and sisters.
    My first problem is that I don’t know since 2014 I’ve facing big problems like first
    1(I’m from Somalia,I escaped from country because of rivals in Somali from Somali to Tanzania.

    2(In Tanzania,I used to leave with a relative woman who she works in agency. So my aunt told me to ask her to take me to Sweden. She said OK. but the life I was living was worse than my own in my country.I used to eat bread and water 24/7 for like 1 months. And I was tolerating just to go to my aunt. OK God accepted my please and instead of going to Sweden I got stuck in Turkey

    3(In Turkey it was hard for me and I didn’t knew anyone in Turkey and so I decided to go further. Just then I found my uncle in Istanbul so him and I decided to go to Europe by smuggling. And we went to Greece ( the way was driving from the capital to the border of Turkey then walk for 10 hours in the jungle rainy and snowy. then take plastic boat to Greece on the sea. but no I’m stuck in Greece. don’t know what to do and I’m in jail oh God help me out
    sometimes I feel like killing myself

    dear friends give me solutions what to do

    and my age is 17. so young for me to face this problems


  17. Asalam oialakom, I am 16 year old junior in high school and went thru serious depression in my sophomore year, I had no faith and didn’t believe in Allah, it was truly a dark time in my life but slowly towards the end of the year I started making new friends and met this girl (we didn’t do anything haram i.e kissing etc) she genuinely cared about me and was there for me and made me really happy. And so my faith in God was restored I had without a doubt faith in there being a higher power bc of how things turned around for me. So time passes on and I get cut from the soccer team. It devistated me but after a few weeks I was over it I still had my friends and they were really supportive. School starts and I’m still talking to the girl and I genuinely care and love her (at this point we did engage in kissing touching etc..) She too is depressed and I always tried my best in being there for her but since the beging of December everything fell apart she completely cut me off for weeks for reasons I don’t know why we talked a few times but it wasn’t like before. I was so broken inside seems like she doesn’t care anymore. I was so lost bc I was so attached to her. So I started to pray and made dua for Allah to take care of her and to not take her away from me I’m not asking for a relationship with her im just praying for us to stay close friends and for us to have something much more seriously than a “highschool relationship” in the future. People tell me God took her away from me bc she was bad for me but I’m making dua so she would be good for me and my life can I do that? So I’m making dua and little by little they were being answered and so I asked Allah for us to go back to constantly talk again and have a healthy attatchment. Even tho I still have some feelings for her I don’t want a relationship with her right now however she’s talking to another guy and it’s almost impossible for me not to get hurt at times but she says she cares and that I mean a lot to her and I’m making dua that everything will work out between us in the future and trying to be patient but sometimes I’m not and I get depressed and complain my imaam is weak at times but I still pray and ask for forgiveness every prayer. But now we got into a argument and she said she didn’t want to be friends and wanted to cut me off again I’m completely broken inside but when the argument was over I didn’t cry I didn’t do anything actually I felt like I was finally being patient but that didn’t last long. I’m just so tired and I don’t know what to do anymore why is God doing this? Is he testing my patience? Is my duas in work just not in the way I want it to? I make dua for her to be good for me and to be good for my life. I’m not asking for a relationship but I am asking for something more serious in the future. I just don’t want to lose her but I’m getting hurt what should I do?


  18. Aslmwlcm everyone.. i am 22, not married yet actually i was loving a girl she too lves me… we are planning to marry after we both get well settled.. she shared evrythng with me.. from past 1 month she iz engaging with another person (kaafar)….. i was doubtng them but not confirmed…. one day i saw them both…and they were so privcay(understand what i mean)…. i was totally depressed….dont knw what to do….Just faith in Allah…. is there any dua ‘s or any surah to be strong alwayss… i was mentally disturbed.. she cheated me… unable to concentrate ….doing many things to get diverted but all are gettng failed… plz plz plz….the scene which i saw is getting on my mind….. gettng bitterly disturbed…….plzzzzz suggest somethng to get diverted plz plz…..


    • Asalaam oalaikum Brother Hussain,
      The first step for you to take is to make two columns and write down in them about your life actions. Haraam in one column and Halal in the other column. After this try to erase the habits that lead you to haraam acts and you will see that your life will be filled with peace and barakah.
      JazaikAllah hu Khairan


    • hussain brother don’t worry because in jannat you will be given whatever u wish(insha allah), there will be hoor in jannah much much beautiful and trust worthy than anyone in this my reply again and again then u will become calm.


    • Assalamu Alaykum, please don’t stress brother. I’ve recently had a close friend who betrayed my trust and the truth is that Sometimes Allah (swt) puts people into your life and takes them out for a reason. That reason us so that we understand that the only being we can trust with all our heart is Allah (swt) because He will never abandon us. That will strengthen our Imaan.

      Also, the perfect person for you has already been written down and Allah (swt) will put her into your life at the perfect time and she will complete you. We have to trust that Allah (swt) does everything for the best and He is the best planner. Allah (swt) loves those who trust Him. When you lose something in your life, it means that Allah (swt) has decreed something even better for us and we will be rewarded if we keep patience. Allah (swt) loves those who are patient.


  19. life was really dEpRessed
    f0r the past 2 then i find a
    way out of it.i c0nnected to
    Allah,offered pRayers.stop being sad
    and suddenly i got a
    disease cAlleD TinnitUs(ringing in the
    ears) . Its really anN0ying as i cAnt
    perf0rm daily duties,cAnt c0ncentrate
    oN stUdies. And sPecially cAnt sleep.i
    just wake like an owl.the s0und in my
    right ear is increasing day by day.i
    have c0nsulted 4 ent physicians,bt no
    oNe cAn give pRoper treatment.i have
    heard that tinnitUs is a permanent
    c0nditi0n,and i have to be in dis
    suffering all my life.the result is im
    losing faith in Allah thats t0o bAd of really why me.i just f0rget what
    hapPeneD to me in past two years
    and all life.and i retUrneD to Allah .bt
    n0w i got dis pRoblem.i dnt knw how
    to deal wid it


  20. Asslamualaiykum. i have inform that i have lost my fianance..just before 15 days of my marriege nd me nd my parents both are feeling very helpless..but by the grace of Allah subanatallah a very good rista come for me..they knw. all the things what was happened to parents force me..nd i can understand thier feelings for worry about my future..should i go for that rishta..? it will gootd for me?pray for me that Allah make this rishta my parents get relief from my tension..plz give reply early..nd make dua for me..


    • Tasneem hope the being of your new life is finalized and must be in the phase of binding the knots. There is saying what happens happens for good and this rishta would be better/fruitful from the earlier rishta.


  21. zajakAllah ..for such a great reply..really i am going to lose my courage if u didnt help me..i request u make dua for me…that Allah subhanawatalla give me sabar ..send someone for my parents can relief from the pain..reciting quran nd tafseer give me so much positiveness..ur articles really helped me..may Allmighty Allah bless u for doing such a wonderful job..make dua for me..


  22. Assalamualaikum.. As i told in ealier massage that my fiannance died in a car accident..i miss him so much..i am trying to blance my now there is a new difficulty come in my life..whenever i am going out people pointed me out that look she is going whose fianance died before marriege..nd as well people pointed my parents too..i feel very helpless ..i always recite my prayer to control my its so painful to live without him..what should i do..??i always try to make sabar..


    • WAS< Once you start reciting and understanding the grand scheme of things from the Quran your grief will fade and Allah will send you someone and something better inshallah, but for now concentrate on connecting with Allah and don't be ashamed of what people say for nothing happens without the will of Allah.
      Keep me posted, Fi AmanAllah!


    • Hi tasneem i am going through a very hard time i would like to speak to you if thats ok i would really appreciate it if you reply


  23. Asslamualaikum…At this time i feel very ur article give me some strainght…my fianance died in car accident just before 15 days of my marriege..i feel helpless..nd feel that my future is blank..before two years my enangement was broken ..nd now this happen to me..pray to Allah to give me sabar..really brfore reading this i also felt that why me?…


    • Walaikum Asalaam, It is very sad when you lose someone you love and feel they are going to be your support in life. When Allah Subhanawataala removes someone from your life then He has much better plans for you. How are you going to discover those plans? The answer lies in the Quran. Everyday when you recite a page, read the translation and read or listen to the tafsir your life will be filled with light and understanding and one day the answer will be right there staring you in the face.
      Unfortunately there are no short cuts.
      My prayer for you is that you connect with Allah through salah and his words in the Quran, repeat them silently as you go about the day and when you call upon him so much He will show you where to go and give you the strength to go there.
      While doing this keep your eyes,ears and senses open to HIs Subhanawataaala’s help when it comes.
      May Allah give you sabr, shukr and a map for life. AMeen!


      • ASA, Start from page one of the Quran, recite, read translation and then read tafsir or listen to the tafsir on and follow Allahs instructions, your path and your life will be beautified by HIM (Subhanawataala) Inshallah!.


  24. I am married for 24 year I have 4 kids and I am giving up on sabar. I had a very bumpy road of life, my husband is a pakistani with a big ego and I pray from him everyday but for last two years things have turned for the worst
    He is going through some kind of midlife crices he stays out all night and sleeps all day he has bessiness which is being manage by employees so he doesn’t have to worry about income
    He is acting like a teenage and dressing like one too my family is sick of this
    I have holding on to him because I am in still in love with him and try to be a good life so atleast I will be able to keep Allah happy that I did my job as a wife and a mother.
    This whole week he was out all night and I call to ask is 5 in the morning is everything ok and he reply that I told you not to call me to ask where I am and hang up the phone.

    I worry about him and can go to sleep until he is home I have high BP and my help is getting worse and worse my dr even called him to tell him that I am about to have a stroke to keep me happy and take care of me but he don’t care I feels sorry for him that he is stuck in a marriage of the sake of his kids .
    I want him to be happy but I can’t take is anymore I don’t know how much longer I can sabar I giving up 😦


    • Sister Mehnaz, you need to become financially independent and go see a lawyer and a therapist. You are in a sick and abusive relationship, Allah does not want sick and abusive relationships. May you get guidance from him. Do istikharah to find out if you should leave him or stay with him legally. Allah helps those who help themselves. Inshallah He will help you too, if you make an effort.


    • I don’t have enough experience to advise smth very good but one this is certain – pray more and ask him to do the same. Practice islam in everything and don’t do anything for the sake of anyone but Allah. Then pray istikhara and Allah will guide you. If you have difficulties in your life as a test so that you go to paradise, that’s good. But it very bad and scary is if you have difficulties because of you have disobeyed Allah, then the difficulty is a punishment, not a test. May Allah protect us from the second one.


    • Dear sister mehnaz

      Aslamu Alequim

      Sad to read your story, happy to see you still feel love for your Husband even his abusive treatment. Beside the sabar sometimes tadbir is also needed. If you decided to end the relationship one sided while still in love with him. And you know he is outside all night, try talking to him as a friend, ask him for forgiveness and allow him to have extra wives, instead of haram, seems like he can afford it, Islam allows it, support him, and tell him you will be kind and sincear with the newer wife,
      For you by doing this either it will save the marriage and he will need to provide for both, with the time he will learn the value of your seggestion. Never burn the bridge. I know it is a kind of hard thing to do but Allah allow this for the reason,


  25. Assalamualaikum
    i know Sabr leads us much more closer to Allah and hence i have holding patience because i believe one day Almighty will bless me with tons of happiness despite of what hardships i went through in life.And he will do justice


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  27. Assalaam wa lekum,
    I am 25yrs now but I don’t know how to read and write Arabic or Urdu. Becoz when I was young my uncle and his family never felt the need for me to learn them. My father died when I was I guess abt 1 and a half yr old. So mother knows Arabic and.Urdu but never really got the time to teach me as she had to do household works for my late fathers family.
    When I reached class 7 I developed a kind a problem in my voice box which made my voice sound female. and this made me speak and live only with those whom I knew well enough and who would not make a fun of me.
    even though I tried to learn Arabic and Urdu at a local madarsa I left that too fearing people made fun of my voice and that I was the oldest student there.
    what I know about Islam is only by hearing the imam speak about Islam before Friday’s namaz and by reading on the internet. All that I know to recite is Alhumdu Sharif.
    I don’t drink alcohol, I do smoke occasionally that too becoz in school a Muslim friend told me to start smoking becoz it might help change my voice. Bt it didn’t.
    when I passed out my school I forced my uncle to send me to AIMS Delhi for a cure for my voice. well I did get my cure to an extent. but life isn’t so simple as we all know.
    before going to Delhi I proposed a Hindu girl whom I liked in school and she accepted it. Well we didn’t do anything that could be called haram except for caring and loving each other in a halal way. When I left for Delhi she left for Bangalore for studies. And after a few months she told me she was in love with someone else and it left me heartbroken. As I knew no one who loved and cared for me other than her I saw my life falling apart, I beg her literally for my life but I couldn’t. Thought of killing myself but didn’t do that becoz of my mom. Then I thought I will try my luck to get into JMI Delhi becoz that was the only institute I knew where the fees were low enough for me to pursue BCA.
    But it’s hard to concentrate on life if you are depressed so I failed to get into JMI and returned home after two years of unsuccessful attempts to get into JMI.
    Now I am doing a business on my own in a location where there are hardly any people walking down the road. And becoz of online store and competition from other well established stores in the main part of the bazar or market, my business is falling apart. People come to my shop to look around , asking about prices and hardly anyone buys only if I agree to sell at a cheap rate making my profits dip lower than what I should earn. I am going crazy falling again into the same depression state becoz of my business and the girl had again came back to me but left me again when she left the town again.
    all these things I driving me crazy and depressed. my fb status are always negative, my life is getting destroyed and I don’t know how to cope with it. plz help me.
    I know the business situation is bad but my brother thinks otherwise. I don’t only need dua to re-establish my business but also need anyone knows the knowhow on how to sell my bags which are Chinese synthetic leather bags online probably on eBay. these bags that I buy from wholesalers don’t come with a legitimate tax bills. But I want to sell these in a legal way online.
    plz help and Allah hafiz
    please contact me at
    And a friend of my brother has promised me that he will bring for me a Quran in English and Insha Allah I will read it. May Allah have mercy on all of us.


    • WAS, brother, inshallah the readers and I will write a response to help you. Meanwhile hang in there with the thought that our Rasool was an orphan with no mother an no father. Cherish your mother and inshallah we will get back with you!


    • People who aren’t married or related to each other shouldn’t be in contact let alone love each other and to say u guys loved each other in a halal way makes no sense any kind of relations outside of marrige are haraam. Loving looking thinking of anyone other than your wife is haraam.


  28. Assalam Alekum
    I am in serious need of help. I have been married for 20 years Alhumdullilah. I converted to Islam 15 years ago. My husband was born into Islam. As time has gone by, we sank deeper in sin. This past Ramadan my Emaan became very strong! SubhanAllah. But since then, my marriage is terribly suffering. My husband has said “I want my wife back” on numerous occasions. This is related directly to haram acts that he has repeatedly asked me to do, that we used to do, and I have flat out refused him. I have explained several times how I feel that I asked Allah (SWT) for forgiveness and I cannot go back to those same sins. I have made so many duas and been so patient and kind to my husband. But we are fighting so much and it is seriously affecting our private life. He refuses to go for counciling and I don’t know what else to do. We have an 8 year old together and 20 years is a long time. We love each other but I feel like we are falling apart! Please help!


    • Walaikum Asalaam,
      You are truly being tested! In Surah Asr Allah puts seeking of Haq (the truth) with sabr, and now you know why. Sabr is in the istiqamah of your emaan and your Deen. Continue to pray for yourself and your family. Share what you study from the Quran with your husband and child. Explain to him that you need some time to understand what Allah wants from you and that maybe he can cut you some slack. Don’t try to change him, change yourself and either he will see the beauty of it or he will not.
      The key is to talk to him and let him know that you are trying to get closer to Allah and the first thing is to obey Him (SWT), to be where H(swt)e wants you to be and away from where He(swt)does not want you to be at. Part of what you will be doing would be “explanatory dawah” to your husband. Meanwhile also teach your child the beautiful aspects of islam not force him to start doing things that he is not used to. e.g. when he tells the truth make a truth jar,and put a penny in it, make a good deed jar and put 5 pennies when he does a good deed etc.
      For your husband reward him with good food and affection when he stays away from haram:) Meanwhile make lots and lots of dua for yourself, your husband, child and extended family to return to Islam and support you and you them. May Allah give you success now and in the Akhirah.


      • Assalam Alekum
        First of all, thanks so much for your previous reply. But I feel that things are just getting worse. My husband actually asked me for a divorce two days ago because he can’t tolerate the changes in me! I was able to talk him out of it Alhumdullilah. But I don’t know what to do or if this is a lost cause. He refuses to take me certain places because of my hijab that I have started wearing. I have explained to him that I am obeying Allah (SWT) and he needs to at least support me, but he doesn’t care. He says it’s my choice to wear it and I can’t force it on him. When I try to talk about the things I am learning, he gets irritated and angry. We have tried compromising but I feel like I am walking on egg shells around him. How long is a person supposed to live like this? He told me when he asked for a divorce that it was all my fault. That I am forcing these changes on him that he doesn’t want. I have not forced anything on him except when he asks me to do things that disobey Allah (SWT). I have been with this man for 20 years and don’t want to throw it away. But my biggest fear is his influence weakening my imaan because, in the end, I want to please Allah (SWT) first, but my husband is second. I am being torn inside of what to do. I know the right thing is to obey and trust in Allah (SWT), but I have my moments of weakness where I doubt my decisions. And that scares me more than anything else!


  29. Assalamualaikum,

    Thanks a lot for the article and the kind responses/replies.

    I hope, you notice mine.

    In short: I was in a relationship for 6 years with a man whom I was going to marry this year. He cheated on me and dumped me because I am “Fatty” and “not presentable”. That girl do not have good character – already divorced 2 times, abandoned own son, was involved in adultery while married. Both of them mocked me, played with my feelings, and insulted me. In past 6 years I supported him – He was nothing, I made him established, I gave his present job, I helped in his studies (his all assignments/reports were made by me), whenever I used to pray or after every fasting I would pray for his betterment, because I considered him as my husband. I performed all duties of a wife can ever do EXCEPT the physical relation, but he was okay with that. And he did same with that girl.

    I had a reality check. I turned to Allah, seek forgiveness for being in a relationship which is Haram. I forgave him, But, whenever I tried to move on he came to me with apology, with marriage proposal. And whenever I used to agree he again return to that girl.

    From 2002, I am having a difficult life. My career, my well being etc was always on hard rock. BUT, he was my world. After him, my family sheltered me. Recently I found that I have PCOS and all those years I could not be “Sexy” for him because I have a hormone higher than usual.
    My family is trying for my Nikaah. But at age 26, being overly educated, not “Sexy” and in past refusing good proposal made it hard.

    AND they are happy, I invested my 6 years for him, made him established so that he can be suitable for my parents choice, dedicated all my time, duas for him and when the time of his payback came he cheated and dumped me for that low woman. Now, they are going to marry. They are happy, He is giving the same dedication I used to give him but not he to me. They are planning honeymoon, future.

    And, I, here, even after 7 months, in spite of not doing anything wrong, not even sex in 6 years (but, yes, being in relationship) am suffering, trying to recover from broken heart, trying to live normally. My parents are raising their blood pressure by the thought of mu future.
    Then tell me, where is the Justice? I had keep my patience till now. But, I can’t bear anymore. I have always had that “bad luck” but never complained to Allah but now question and questions runs through my mind which I want to Ask Allah.

    Please, tell me what to do. It seems my “sabr” are crossing it’s limit.


    • WalaikumAsalaam wa rahmatullahe wa barakatahu,
      If you look at your condition from the viewpoint of a detached onlooker, it seems you have been saved a married life of 20 or 30 years filled with misery, sadness, betrayal, and lack of respect. Is that what you want out of a marriage?
      Step one is to take care of yourself: Eat halal and tayyab (organic) Examine your earnings and change them if there is haram in them (dealing with alcohol and gambling etc) exercise, find a buddy to do it with or join a biking or hiking club, educate your self about your Deen study Quran with tafseer daily for an hour or two. Allah says in Surah Baqarah ” There will be no fear or grief if you follow my guidance” I am a living example of his promise. So get with the program and stop looking back, reminiscing, envying, wishing etc and move forward to make a new you and a new life, and you will be surprised what doors will open for you.
      And yes as sadaqah volunteer in a charity, a soup kitchen, prison teacher, babysitting a single mothers kids, or cleaning up at the mosque. or any other charity work that you find once a week or twice a month.
      In one last look back check out your mistakes and learn from them and don’t do them in the next relationship. A man woman relationship should be on equal footing, you were behaving like his mama, feeding him, financing him, etc. You were acting like his wife while he was leaning on you like a son. both relationships were pathological both from the islamic and secular point of view. SO evaluate each man you meet as a possible husband and do not develop a dependent or forbidden relationship one to one and check if he is serious about proposing and do not act as a wife unless you have a signed Nikah Nama. As one man very crudely said “why buy the cow when you are getting the milk free”
      So once you have analysed your mistakes of the past do not look back! RasoolAllah said ” don’t not say IF or in urdu “Kaash” because when you say that Shaitaan puts his foot in the door and pulls you out into the universe of nothingness where you roam looking for something that isn’t there and valuable time is lost.
      At 26 your are not on the shelf, you have 20 more years of childbearing years and many more of being a fun wife to someone. REDESIGN your self to be someone Allah loves and everyone will love you!!


      • Thanks a lot for your quick. It really means a lot to me.

        I know, whatever you are saying is right. First of all, I am sure that I eat halal and earn halal – I am an Engineer BTW. I exercise but as I have PCOS it’s hard to shed any pounds ans well as keeping them, But I am trying. My parents are worried because PCOS causes problems in conceiving, too.

        I am not envying them ,You know, after 6 months I understood – whatever happened, are better. . I forgave them. gave chance 4 times, many lured me to harm them and I did not. I did everything possible to keep “sabr”. I considered this experience as a test from Allah & I am trying to be not failed.

        But, from last 10 days I don’t know why I can’t stop questioning. With so many negatives in life – a belief that merely any good happen in my life is started to bother me. You know, I was always against a relationship/courtship, I used to pray Allah “please, do not enter any man as lover who will not be my husband”, yes, In this society, I have to meet many man, work with man- but always maintain my limit. I have always been respected and praised for that. So, when this man entered my life, his characteristics were same as I wanted in my husband to Allah, he entered in my life on same date I wished my life partner will etc. for many reason I was sure that he is the chosen one for me by Allah. So, I dedicated myself for him. It was really a shocker when I found out about the affair. Then, I left him. BUT, in last 7 months It was 4 times I distanced myself and each time he returned, convinced me, and then again left me for that girl.

        As far as I know, I do not harmed anyone, I am always there to help people, I am the one who masks her pain and aid others. But, Now, it seems I cannot handle it anymore. Why this “perfect from my POV” man? “Why after 6 years, why not earlier” “Why playing with emotions”, “why those insults”, “Why me”, ‘Why I can’t leave in peace”, “Where is the justice”, “When will my life see a fresh, new morning”, “do Allah hate me”, “Sure I did anything wrong that I am in pain, if I did not Allah would have distanced this man in different way” etc etc are eating me up.

        When I do this to Allah I know I am doing wrong – but I just can’t help. My prayers, Quran reading are being affected too.

        Yes, I want to rebuilt and redesign myself. But, I just do not know how? I want to get back my self-esteem, confidence which are totally lost in these years. I feel uncomfortable if anyone praise me now.

        And will you please, elaborate this one “Allah says in Surah Baqarah ” There will be no fear or grief if you follow my guidance” I am a living example of his promise. So get with the program and stop looking back, ” for me? How to follow?

        I know, I am writing long & maybe annoying you. But, you know I know I am drowning, not only as a human but also as a Muslim. And a drowning person clutches a straw. I want to live.


  30. As salam waleykum

    I really need some help
    Have been married for 6.5 years and having good and very bad times in this relationship, when we argue my husband beats me up, this time he hit me so much i was scared and ended up calling the police, but i dropped the charges, my intention was just to put some sort of scardness in his head so he think before he raise his hand, this went all wrong because i called the police he wants to know divorce me because he is hurt by my actions, i cant be without him, what should i do he will not change his mind, please help me i beg you.


  31. Alhamdulillah for this great article.

    I would like to ask about the concept of ‘sabr’ when it comes to relationship between family members. For instance, I asked for a favor from my sister but she declined and replied in a mean way. If I am being patient with her because I am holding myself back from replying to her in a mean way also, does being patient in this manner come within the concept of ‘sabr’ in Islam?

    I am very much hoping for your reply. Shukran 🙂


    • Asalaam o alaikum! This concept comes with the Huqooq al ebad and has many many rewards from Allah!
      May Allah bless you for remaining silent in the face of provocation.


    • aslam alikum,
      My husband has been cheating on me for on and off for 8 years, and he has no regrets and no remorse for his actions. i have waited patiently for this long but i can’t take it any more, how much more saber do i need to do. I always ask Allah that i hav never had a namahram even shake my hand, so why did Allah gave me a husband like that, it is very very hard to move on and i am at the end of my saber.


      • Walaikum Asalaam, you are confusing sabr with bearing up with Dhulm or oppression. Your husband has broken his marriage vows and is committing the heinous sin of adultery, in islam you qualify for a divorce immediately. If you don’t, from a practical point of view you will get a serious sexually transmitted disease from one of his partners through him. Its time to get out and find a lawyer and an Imam you will give you Khula and the lawyer will get you what you deserve for mental and physical cruelty through years of adulterous relationships.
        Find strength in salah.


  32. Aslam o Aliakum, JazakAllah khair for this nice and beautiful article. I was really depressed since I showed patience for a long time , I was thinking that the period I am facing at the moment in my life is all because of my sins and at the end just yesterday I asked Allah that I am getting disappointed now and cannot bear anymore and do not want to be sinful again for being disappointed as this is haraam. Now I am seriously shameful for my reactions and word I spoke to my Lord, my Allah.
    Alhamdulillah for everything. Alhamdulillah…


    • Walaikum Asalaam wa Rahmatullahi wa barakatahu! Allah is with you and He is the best confidante. Talk to Him, complain to him and ask his opinion and help.
      Smile a lot
      Watch mufti menk he has a good video on sabr and some funny clips too:)


  33. AoA, as someone facing very testing difficulties I often resort to searching for any insightful articles on sabr and tribulations. Most articles simply roll out the quotes that we all know, but in the most difficult times we need more. I think for all of us there has to the realisation that for something to be a genuine test, or tribulation it has to be something that perturbs us deeply. It amazes me in life how different people react to different situations. Even non-Muslims who go through undoubted hardships have amongst them people who (outwardly) seem to cope, and other who fall apart. Much the same as Muslims, it seems.

    My own difficulties leave me at times in situations where I am facing a problem (family, work, business) that is threatening to explode, that requires an immediate response, yet I feel completely and utterly bewildered as to what that response should be. At these times I am at a loss as to what simple patience is. IF I knew that I could simply switch off, do nothing except for dhikr and the problem would go away I would. Not having confidence to take action, fearing the course of action will backfire, what exactly is sabr in this situation? For people who, for whatever mysterious reason, have a naturally pessimistic disposition sabr during difficulties is, well, difficult. An optimist will find it naturally easy(ier) to trust in Allah (swt). The one or two articles in Islam I’ve read about pessimism do a great job of describing what pessimism is, but are woeful in prescribing a remedy .. “don’t be pessimistic”. I would be most grateful if someone can point to any sources that deal with this issues of pessimism, sabr and trust in Allah.


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  36. Salamo aleykom. I was very very very sad before I read this article, I am in a deppresion, I do say Alhamulilah when something hard hits me and hurts me , but I felt like I was lost, I do have alot of hope in ALLAH I always have, Its just sometimes I lose connection with my Lord and at that time I feel like lost in this world. Im thankful for reading this article, it has made me really strong, I hope Allah will help every single muslim out there whos facing alot of difficulties, may Allah give us all Jannah and forgive all our sins. Amin Ya Rabb ❤


    • We all go through hardships… Listen to Ayub (Alai) and Yoonus (Alai)’s stories… Ayub (Alai) was tested for almost 7 years, and he did not lose faith in Allah. Think of it, Allah tests us to bring out the best in us. 🙂 I pray that Allah should make things easy for you. 🙂


  37. Bismillahi Rahmani Rahim:I was really happy and motivated going through this piece.Initially,I came to this website for a lecture I was to present but I myself was lectured and my heart was touched as I was reading through.Also,reading through it has really lectured me on somethings I did not know about.It has also taught me to accept anything that befalls me with good faith.On a final note,it has changed me for the best.JAZAKUMULAHU KHAIRAN KASIRAN


    • JazaikAllah hu Khairan, May Allah be pleases with your change and may you put it into acton.
      please keep me and all the scholars who distilled this information and all the students who passed it on, inshallah you will do the same.


  38. Ya sheikh is it possible for me to see either of the prophet (saw) or Allah (sw) in a dream,and what should i do to see Them,kheir InshaALLAH.


    • ASA, I am not a sheikh. However why do you want to see them in a dream. Work good works, obey Allah and do not disobey Him and you will see them in the AKhirah. That is a good goal to have, this life is short and just a test.


    • ASA. Again a reminder, I am not a sheikh. Here is what Allah says in the Quran which may help you:
      [42:51] Surah Shuraa ayah 51 translation by Yusuf Ali
      It is not fitting for a man that Allah should speak to him except by inspiration, or from behind a veil, or by the sending of a messenger to reveal, with Allah’s permission, what Allah wills: for He is Most High, Most Wise.


  39. Bismmwillahi,wallahi this lecture have motivated me in the highest point,but still i need more to enlighten and receive a bit of recognition from Allah SW,may He (SW) bless you all, Ameen.


  40. Assalaam Aly Kum,

    Dear Brother Asqfish, Alhumdulillah, Allah made our ways very easy with the help of your valuable duwas. Again I am facing hardship and trails. I lost my respect in my area as well money. I am unable to express my view in this regards. Please make duwa for us to get out from this and Allah give us SABR to face this calamity.
    I would like to ask you one question, if a person be cheated and lost faith with someone, what would be the rewards from Allah Subhanautalaala?
    Please reply to have more SABR.

    Jazak Allah


    • Assalaam Aly kum, I would like to ask a AJEEB question. It’s very strange for you, but its true. I even feel guilty or so to but its unbearable for me. I wanna to share with some1.
      1. Is it true that parents are always 100% right?
      2. Is the story that a son took his mother’s heart for his girlfriend and fell down on the way and heart speak to him to walk carefully?
      3. If parents are not wishing to forgive their son on any cost, what son has to do?
      4. Is any hadith that tells us that joint family is permit able in a single room?

      Please, please, please guide me in that so I will be get benefits for here and hereafter.

      Jazak Allah


      • Assalaam Alykum,

        Dear brother, I could not get any response about the post dated 22-02-13 at 11:52pm. Could you please let me know the answers at earliest. Badly waiting for your reply.
        Jazak Allah oh Kaher


      • Walaikum Asalaam,
        I think the answer to those questions depend on the details of the circumstances. It is advisable that you go to your local Imam or Scholar tell him your circumstances and get advice. May ALlah guide you and your family.


      • Assalaamalykum, It is very difficult to get such in my area. Do you have any site known where I can correspond with the to get the answer before die???
        Jazak Allah


  41. Thanks for your fathawa through i lost my husband we are together for morethen 15yrs no kids we still love each orther until when death saperate us he died 7 month ago we are together with our adopted child, am looking after him. eventhough no job am a digree holder things change, before when my husband is alive i dont know any difficulties but stil thanks GOD. i know HE put me in this situation, not because HE hate me but to test my faith for me all what i waint in this world to observe my religion obligation according to quran & sunnah. also die as muslim. thanks alot for allowing to write.


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  45. Asalamalaykum Brothers & Sisters

    I wanted to ask all of you here to make dua for me to allah ( swt )
    i am going through a verry difficult time in my life right now and i need your duas please make dua to allah ( swt ) that he helps me and accepts my duas please make dua for me from your heart and raising hands please,
    may allah reward you all. Jazakallahu khairan.


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  47. Asalaam o alaikum,
    Inshallah on the final day all accounts will be brought to Allah, the father who oppresses, the mother whose children are taken from her unjustly and much more.
    Inshallah Justice will be done by ALlah. Meanwhile we have to keep to His obedience for in that is our test from Him.
    May He make us strong in emaan and Istiqamah with salah and Dhikr. May Allah make it easy for you and strengthen your heart.


  48. Sister, you have said Allah listens to a mother and oppressed; why then the male-dominated society listens to father’s lies against a mother whose voice gets unheard, whise children are forced not to meet the mother for the father is mighty, rich and powerful in the society. Being patient is to be like a machine, not to let your emoions sutrface, to be brave beyond everything, to be counting days till Allah salvages you from this painfull life to take you to death….Sister, being patient, living life, cuts you all the time but you don’t bleed, only the sufferer knows the pain…


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  50. Walaikum Asalaam,
    May Allah grant you many children……..remember they may not be in the traditional sense your children, but would look up to you as a mother figure. Are there any such children in your surroundings that you could be a stabilizing center for them?


  51. AsSalamAlaikum,
    JazakAllah Khiran for this much need reminder. I need it after unsuccessfully trying to get pregnant for the past 13 years. I need patience and something else to think about rather than having babies all the time.



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  54. Salam,

    Jazak Allah asqfish & Rafiq. I will try that and keep in touch with you. Please keep rembering us in your duwas.
    Alhumdulillah, now direct Co. says that they will send visa and ticket by 17th Jan, 2011. Pray that they fulfill their commitment.


    • Our prayers are with you and all the other muslims and Allah’s (swt) creations who are suffering or strayed brother. Please do keep us up to date and strive for a better life and inshAllah God will bless you with what is truley best for you.

      And Asqfish may Allah reward you for the help you are offering through this medium. If only everyone can have this mentality of helping others in whatever way we can… the world would be a beautiful place. JazakAllah.


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  56. Salam,

    Jazak Allah, I tried to do the same, but she doesn’t even look at me. She told that I gave here so much pain, when I asked whats that pain, she refused to talk more. I think, think and think and try to find out whats wrong things I had done, but I never found any fault. I love her a lot. I just remember that I was shouting her when she refused to come to my home. Rest Allah knows better. Can you tell me the online Faqhee, so I will get help from him, pls?

    Jazak Allah
    Keep praying for us.


    • Salaams brother.

      So if i understand this correctly; your mother gets angry at you meeting the relatives, and when you ask her why she doesn’t tell you. Well it seems that she has an issue with these people and thus does not want her son to associate with them. What these issues are she doesnt want to tell you; but just to obey her in not meeting up with these people. Well there is your solution. Distance yourself from them whilst still keeping the peace, whilst at the same time educating your mother to the importance of forgiveness and brotherhood in islam and how Allah (swt) does not want us to bear grudges. This way your mum will be happy that you are keeping your distance, as well as giving you time to calmly findout what the problem is and try to resolve it. Also your relatives won’t notice much differece as you are still in peace with them. worth a shot. May Allah (swt) ease the burdens of your mind. Ameen.


  57. walaikum asalaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatahu!
    Perhaps it would help to find out exactly why your mother is angry with you? If she raised you as a good muslim son, she would be very happy to see you following the Quran and Sunnah. May be you need to sit with her and find out in a quiet way what is the problem and what does she think is the solution.
    The general consensus of Muslim behaviour is “obey Allah and His Rasool and honor your parents”, unless they want you to do something that is against Tawheed and your faith.
    I am not a fiqeeh, Allah knows best.
    I pray that your situation is better/


  58. Salam Brother, As you said, I tired to change my way. I am having a question. If a like to obey the Sunna e.g., if I used to meet my aunty, uncle, relatives etc. and thankful those who helps me in my need. But due to this, my mother get angry. Shall I continue with meeting them or stop for my mother. I am having beard, pray salah on time, Tahajud too. I want to live on the way of Ph. Mohammed (SWS) as much as I can. Whatever I does, she opposed that. Please help me out in this matter. Jazzak Allah


  59. Walaikum As Salaam,
    Isn’t it true that Allah Subhanawataala tests our emaan in Him in so many ways, some by loss of children, and some by loss of things.
    Struggle hard and perhaps change the path you are on and look elsewhere, maybe you will see a different avenue.
    May Allah Subhana wataala guide you to your struggle and send you the means to sustain yourself and your family.

    How can the readers help you?


  60. Salam, Dear islamic brothers and sisters, i am continually writing on this site since last many months. Myself and my family tired to work hard and pray as much as we can. My two kids of 11 and 9 years, were also joined with us and prayed even Tahajud and keep fasting thrice a week. But no one came to help us. As I wrote earlier about my problems. Anyways, now since last June, 2010, I am jobless, whatever was in my hand are spent. My home is let out to survive on heavy deposit. My kids are admitted in hostel as I am unable to keep them with me. My wife only stand next to me. I was appointed by UAE Co. and deposited Rs.35000 (taken from my Aunty as loan). But agent still telling me to wait. How long I dont know? Now my wife and self staying with my parents in a one room. Is this the rewards for hard prayers??? Please advice me what to do. I only trust in Allah and Allah making my ways like this………


    • Salaam u Alaikum brother.

      It easy to bypass other peoples problems by simply saying it is a will of ALLAH (swt) and we are being tested. This does not however help your situation in anyway. Yes it is the will of God and yes we are being tested. But at the same time we need to look at ourselves / our decisions and try to perfect them. Praying and fasting will not ward off the effects of your bad judgments and decisions. ie I can pray 24hrs a day for 20 years to ask God for an immortal life, and upon death i cannot ask god “Is this the rewards for hard prayers”. In your situation you need to write down all the issues you have. You will find there is one root cause for all your problems ie the high payment to your agent who has disappeared; and now this is causing you hardship and creating a problem on problem ripple effect. Yes, keep praying that your agent comes back with good news, and the same time think about how to get your family together again. Get part-time jobs etc, ask friends and family for help, and as the Holy Quran says: “Wast’eenoo bissabre wassalat” (ask for help through ‘sabr’ (patience) & ‘salat’ (prayer). These will guide you. But you must actively do things to improve your situation and not just Pray and hope it happens miraculasly. God helps those who help themselves. wassalam and I pray things get better for you. Ameen.


    • Asalaam o alaikum sister M,
      May Allah Subhanawataala give you what is best for you and give you the strength to bear the change if that is what is best for you.
      May He Subhanawataala give you the vision to recognise what is going to bring you closer to Him Subhanawataala and what is just and right.
      May Allah Subhanawataala give you the best in this world and the Hereafter. Ameen!


    I had gone through the article of SABR but as for me its very difficult,please brother & sister in Islam do dua for me,
    I am suffering from my personal problem,since only son( no brother and no sister), i have old parents at home,our family is religious and value Islam but my in laws has ruined my happiness just for worldly sake.They accuse us of being outdated family,who has no charm of living in this advance world.My health ,my business and peace has been badly suffered.
    I am not at all concentrating on my business or at home,feeling very lonely & helpless.
    I do pray all the five obligatory Salah.
    Please do dua that happieness comes back to my family and ALLAH help us so we unite.
    I am advised to keep sabr on this.
    Please suggest any dua that ease my suffering.

    Jazak Allah


    • wa laikum Asalaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatahu,
      Inshallah this too shall pass,
      we are promised that no pain in this world goes unrewarded in the Hereafter.

      Sabr is for Allah and to know that He will repay you manifold!

      DO not worry about what dunya says as they can neither improve nor “ruin” your happiness, only Allah can, so ask Him Subhanawataala to help you and inshallah He will in His infinite Mercy.


    • i am very sorry for your situation my brother
      Inshallah may Allah bring you happiness as soon as possible, Allah knows when the best time is and you will only realize why you went through the hardship when Allah brings you out Inshallah, there is a great wisdom behind every hardship and trail and one of the best ways to benefit from it is to be very thankful for the affliction.

      there is afew wise saying from the Holy Prophet Saw and his Ahlulbayt… ponder over them it should help inshallah

      Imam Sajjad (a.s.) says:

      There are two actions, towards which, a step taken is liked by Allah more than anything else. One is the step taken to join a row formed in the name of Allah (for Jehad or Namaz); the second is the one taken to extend a hand of friendship towards kith and kin who want to break relations.

      (Behaarul Anwaar)

      The Holy Prophet (s.a.w.s.) said:

      “Certainly there is a section in Paradise which can not be attained except by three kinds of people. First the just Imam, second, the one who does Sileh Rahmi, and third the one who has family (and children) but remains patient (in poverty and difficulties).

      Imam Ja’far as-Sadiq (a.s.) says:

      “The kindness towards relative and goodness towards the believing brother makes easy your reckoning on the Day of Judgement and protects you from sins. So you should be kind to your relatives and be good to your believing brothers even if it is as little as a sincere ‘salaam’ (salutation) or a hearty reply to a salaam.”

      The Holy Prophet (s.a.w.s.) says:

      “If any one betrays trust with you, do not betray trust with him or you will also become like him. Similarly, do not break ties with your relatives even if they do so.”

      (Behaarul Anwaar)

      Ahlul Bayt have been delineated in the Quran (Surah 33, Ayah 33) and purified by Allah (Most High) from sin, religious error, or forgetfulness (Ismah). Ahlul Bayt consist of Muhammad (pbuh), his daughter Fatima, his son-in-law and cousin Ali, and his two grandchildren Al-Hasan and Al-Husain. And of the progeny of Al-Husain are the nine designated Imams: Zainul Abideen, Al-Baaqir, Al-Saadiq, Al-Kadhim, Al-Ridha, Al-Taqi, Al-Haadi, Al-Askari, and Al-Mahdi —may peace be with them,

      None of the Sahaaba had ever received the recognition or was ever referred to in the Quran as much as Ahlul Bayt were, in particular Ali. To delve in the Quran in search of the referrals to Ahlul Bayt, the researcher finds three different types; some are specific by designation, others are specific by alluding, yet others are non‑specific but understood (hints). Thus the referrals can roughly be categorized in the following fashion:


  62. My family have had many problems over the past years. I cannot recall when was the last time since we saw some happiness. I feel for my parents especially, because they constantly see their children suffer, and for them it is unbearable.
    My brother Habib was ever so caring and loving, and was loyal to his friends and family. He has done umrah three times, and always made zikhr, prayed 5 times, remembering Allah constantly.

    Last year he became involved in a serious predicament, where sadly two people died. His friends sister was having an affair (this only came to surface after the trial), and Habib and others were duped and misled. The person who orchestrated this indeed have had bad intentions, but these boys did not. While Habib was outside the house, the other two boys caused fire by pouring petrol.

    They had no motive or intentions to kill. They did not go there to harm anyone. What became of this was tragic. Two people died, and three children were orphaned.

    It is sad for all those who were involved, especially the victims family.

    I cannot justify what habib did, he did wrong, only to a part where he was there. He did not cause the fire, he had no motive, no intentions, just simply misled because of his naivety and his nature.

    Please can you advise us what is there we can do. My parents have been besides themselves, constantly praying and doing ibadah. They are currently in Umrah.


    • Asalaam o alaikum,
      Allah Subhanawataala tests us in many ways, here your parents, your brother and his friends and you are in a test, follow the guidelines in the article and wipe out sins and mistakes with hasanaats, sadaqaats and good deeds. May Allah accept the istighfaar from you and your family.
      This world is temporary, prepare for the perpetual world, it is more permanent and you would want to have a better place there, inshallah.
      My prayers are with your parents and you, it is a painful predicament.
      May they come out with sabr and more sabr.


  63. Salaam,

    I and my partner(other faith)planned to marry, but always we faced obstacles. He forcefully got married and planning to leave that girl and come back to me. I am praying to Almighty to grant him hidayath and guide him to lead a life of a muslim.
    I always believed in Allah SWT and all my partners marriage problems are solved. Now, whenvever we plan for marriage thru converting to islam, we are facing hurdles.
    PLease pray for us.

    Allah Haafiz


  64. Salam,

    Brother i have a suggestion, if possible, please disply ALLAH’s Ninety Nine names at the top of the screen. Because these names belongs to that place. Allah O Akbar………..Allah is Awallo…….

    Please make it possible.



  65. Salam,
    Brother, we lost pur happiness. Day by day new circumstances comes and make us unhappy. Each day we try to pass with respect but………………….Kindly kindly make special pray for us. Ask Allah to forgive our sins. Please do something…….



  66. Assalam Alaikum brother and sisters tonight i was thinking of how i should control ma anger and have sabar,mashallah reading all the comments it has put peace in my heart.thankyou may allah blees uxx allah hafiz


  67. asqfish & USM,

    assalam alaykum…. You don’t know how much my heart fluttered reading your comments. I really appreciate that you took time out of your lives to reply to me. Your words consoled and supported me in every way.

    Alhamdulillah, everyone is feeling better now. I guess it all wears off with time. But I don’t want it to. I don’t want to forget the powerful lesson it taught me.

    I’m going to start working soon so I will make a list of resolutions like USM suggested because I don’t want to get caught up in work and studies making my deen take the backseat. It happens to so many people.

    Thanks for comforting me. I read all your words again and again and derived strength from them. May Allah reward you for your efforts. I’m sure many people remember you in their duas as I did in mine.

    Pondering Soul


  68. aassalamuaallaaykum to all my brothers & sisters.few days back, my brother expired in a road accident. please pray for him,that he should get higher then the highest place in jannah.


  69. asalaamo alaikum USM,
    May Allah reward you for providing solace to a distressed soul.
    I was at the retreat on Tazkiyah nafs, more on that later.
    May you continue to gather the ilm and transform it into Amal.

    Please keep me in your prayers.


  70. Asalaam o alaikum was rahmatullah e wa barakatahu Pondering Soul,

    May Allah Subhanawataala bless you!

    He has given you a special protection. When you love someone deeply and he or she is taken from you, you can react in many ways.

    ‘Alhamdollilah Allah Subhanawataala had strengthened you with emaan and the concept of Akhirah before your dear grandfather died.

    May Allah Subhanawataala, ease his time in the grave and grant him the best level in Jannah.

    He has left you behind as his Sadaqa e Jariya with all the ilm packed with his love in the books he gave you, so read them and recite the Quran and pray for the salvation of your grandfather.

    There is a beautiful dua that you can recite in tashahud for parents and grand parents. It is on the blog.

    As for crying, believe me you will cry one day at the most unexpected moment, some small thing will touch you, a fragrance, a smile, a friend, a book, and you will be reminded of the love of your grandfather and you will cry………….

    Do let yourself cry if and when that happens.
    Meanwhile prepare for Akhirah with night Qiyaam and what ever else is in the Quran and Sunnah and be kind to others, because even though they are not crying you don’t know if their heart is weeping.

    May Allah protect you and keep you on the path of Allah.


  71. Walaikum Salaam pondering soul,

    I am sure sister Asqfish is tied up with something, as she would have replied by now if otherwise.

    mashAllah, your post is an apt reminder for all of us that we do indeed belong to Allah and to Him is our return.

    Your response to the death of your grandfather is not hypocritical but a reflection of your increasing faith and your upward spiral inshAllah to your ultimate goal. If the death of people close to us is not able to motivate us to draw closer to Allah and convince us of the reality of the dunya then there are very few other things that can.
    Not being able to cry is not a marker of love, but simply a variation of a human’s grieving process. Each of us will react differently to grief and loss, your tears will come but in their own time.
    For now utilise your zeal to change and draw closer to your creator by making some new resolution or performing additional acts of worship the rewards of which you can dedicate to your grandfather and make it a ource of light for him in his grave.

    May Allah bless us all with the strength and courage to attain His nearness.


  72. Assalam Alaykum…Thank you so much for this post,

    I recently lost my dear Granddad, whom I loved very much. I loved being near him, listening to every word he spoke. I loved him and longed to meet him and be with him though everyone else turned away from him. Because of a mistake he made, even his close relatives and family felt angry with him and turned away from him. But I was always on his side, always, because I loved him deeply.

    I am a very emotional person. However, when I heard the news of his death abroad, I did not cry at all. I said neutrally, “Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’un… Everyone has to die.”

    Everybody thought I was going to weep and lose consciousness and take it very negatively because I was so close to him – so they were shocked to see me taking it so lightly.

    I am a teen who reverted to true Islam just about a year ago and it is my Granddad who strengthened my faith and bought me so many hadith books, which I shall read and ponder whenever I can.
    I came to your site because I was beginning to get concerned as to why I didn’t cry. I feared I might be a hypocrite showing what seems to be ‘strength’ in this matter and yet feeling like a weak believer in other aspects. My goal is to be a strong believer no matter what happens, to live and die in a state of iman. My Granddad’s unexpected death has shaken me – but I feel there is no time to dwindle in self-pity and remorse – I feel a sense of urgency – to start preparing for the Akhirah now.

    …I’m really sorry for this long post but I really needed somebody to talk to. Thank you for listening to me.

    Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’un.


  73. Alahamdollillah! Sabr is the secret door to Allah’s presence. It is the code that tells Allah that we truly submit to His will, whatever it may be.

    May Allah Subhanawataala grant you what is best in this world and the next!


  74. Assalam o Alaikum
    i was searching on web for sabr and i found this site so helpful and it made my heart so calm.Alhumdulillah.
    I dont have kids and want badly and pray as much for it as i can. but sumtime i become so inpatient. Now i ‘ll try more to focus on Allah’s saying. Plz pray for me and thanx for such guidence.


  75. Wassalm, Jazak Allah for reply. Brother, Alhumdulillah we, me, my wife, my son 11yrs and 7yrs, all are praying Salah, Alhumdulillah not even 5 times but six times including Tahjood. we fast thrice in a week. I am having uncut beared since last 20yrs. I try not to break anyones heart.My wife is alos doing the same.Alhumdulillah we are doing many things to make Allah happy. Rest is upon Allah. Even v r in such a situations. But i strongly sure Allah will solve all of my problems Insha Allah. Pray 4 us. Allah Hafiz


  76. Asalaam o alaikum brother Ansari,
    The best prayer is that which comes from the heart with istighfaar and a promise to change ourselves. To obey Allah and stay away from disobediences.

    Evaluate your life and sift out what is with the Deen and what is not.

    May Allah grant you peace.


  77. Salam,

    Where was u?? i miised u a lot.
    Please do prayer for us. Myself and my family are in unwanted difficulties.Everyday some worng things happens with us.I am totally looser now. Its Ramzan, pleasse pray in ur valuable duwa to overcome our difficulties.

    Jazak Allah


  78. Walaikum Asalaam Mrs Aamir,
    Nothing happens overnight, but it brews slowly.
    I dont know enough about you to give you advice, but the little that I glean from your note, it seems you need Tazkiyah Nafs to control your Nafs (talking and eating excessively is an expression of a Bahemi nafs out of control)/
    To figure out what I am saying and if it applies to you, search for all the posts on Tazkiyah Nafs or Nafs and review them to see if it helps you.
    Meanwhile recite la howla wala quwata……….tp yourself when you have the desire to speak or you are angry or irritated.
    May Allah Subhanawataala make you capable of meeting the challenge.


  79. assalamualikum. please guide me as to how to keep my mouth shut. i cant keep it shut. i am at the verge of breaking, i try for sabr with my husband but when its comes to talk to him, i always loose control and CANNOT SHUT UP. please guide me as to how to keep my mouth shuut. i know this is no sabr but i cant help it anymore. im married for six years , we shared aprfect married life but now all of a sudden, my husband wants kids na second marriage and he and his family torture in ways emotionally destructive. plz pray fo r my sabr.and guide how to control myself in front of him.


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  82. Walaikum asalaam,

    All guidance is from Allah in His book. You and I and all our friends who comment here are the means of spreading the truth and sharing the light of the Quran.

    May Allah Subhanawataala help us to help each other.


  83. Sr Amina: May Allah Subhanawataala give you strength, ability and faith to do the right thing and remain on the straight path while doing it,


  84. I am going through hardship and I’m finding it difficult to get to terms with.I’ve been married for 11years and my husband secretly got married knowing well that it would cause problems in our marriage. I also have 3 children.Please make dua that I have sabr.


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  86. Walaikum asalaam wa rahmatullah e wabarakatahu,
    Repeat this dua when the fear of anyone other than Allah tries to enter your heart:
    اللّهُـمَّ لا مانِعَ لِما أَعْطَـيْت، وَلا مُعْطِـيَ لِما مَنَـعْت، وَلا يَنْفَـعُ ذا الجَـدِّ مِنْـكَ الجَـد .

    “Allaahumma laa maani‘a limaa a‘tayt, wa laa mu‘tiya limaa mana‘t. Wa laa yanfa‘u dhal-jaddi minkal-jadd.”

    “Ô Allaah, none can prevent what You have willed to bestow. And none can bestow what You have willed to prevent. And no wealth or majesty can benefit anyone, as from You is all wealth and majesty.”

    and also repeat it after every salaah.
    May Allah take the fear of others out of our hearts.


  87. Walaikum Asalaamwa rahmatullah he wa barakatahu!

    The best dua comes from the heart of the person in need,

    May Allah SWT draw you nearer to Him everyday.


  88. Courtesy of:

    How to Perform Tahajjud (Optional Late Night Prayer)
    My question is that I want to know the opinion of scholars and the teachings of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) on how to perform Tahajjud (optional late night Prayers).

    Answer by:
    Name of Counselor
    Taqwa Saifulhaq

    Thank you very much for your question.

    Actually your question is highly important for every Muslim. Tahajjud Prayer is part of the Sunnah of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), which Muslims are preferred to follow all the time.

    In his famous work, Fiqh As-Sunnah, Sheikh Sayyid Sabiq elaborates on the subject as follows:

    Ordering His Messenger to perform Tahajjud, Allah Almighty says what means:

    *{And during a part of the night, pray Tahajjud beyond what is incumbent on you; maybe your Lord will raise you to a position of great glory.}* (Al-Israa’ 17:79)

    This order, although it was specifically directed to the Prophet, also refers to all Muslims, since the Prophet is a perfect example and guide for us in all matters.

    Moreover, performing Tahajjud Prayers regularly qualifies one as one of the righteous and makes one earn Allah’s bounty and mercy. In praising those who perform the late night Prayers, Allah says what means:

    *{And they who pass the night prostrating themselves before their Lord and standing.}* (Al-Furqan 25:64)

    Next to these Qur’anic verses, there also exist a number of hadiths that reinforce the importance of Tahajjud.

    `Abdullah ibn Salam reported:

    “When the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) came to Madinah, the people gathered around him and I was one of them. I looked at his face and understood that it was not the face of a liar. The first words I heard him say were: ‘O people, spread the salutations, feed the people, keep the ties of kinship, and pray during the night while the others sleep, and you will enter Paradise in peace.’” (At-Tirmidhi.)

    Salman Al-Farsi quoted the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) as saying:

    “Observe the night Prayer; it was the practice of the righteous before you and it brings you closer to your Lord and it is penance for evil deeds and erases the sins and repels disease from the body.” (At-Tabarani)

    Etiquette of Prayer

    The following acts are recommended for one who wishes to perform the Tahajjud Prayer:

    * Upon going to sleep, one should make the intention to perform the Prayers. Abu Ad-Darda’ quoted the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) as saying:

    “Whoever goes to his bed with the intention of getting up and praying during the night, but, being overcome by sleep, fails to do that, he will have recorded for him what he has intended, and his sleep will be reckoned as a charity (an act of mercy) for him from his Lord.” (An-Nasa’i and Ibn Majah)
    * On waking up, it is recommended that one wipes the face, use a toothbrush, and look to the sky and make the supplication which has been reported from the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him).

    Abu Hudhaifa reported:

    “Whenever the Prophet intended to go to bed, he would recite: (With Your name, O Allah, I die and I live).” And when he woke up from his sleep, he would say: (All the Praises are for Allah Who has made us alive after He made us die (sleep) and unto Him is the Resurrection.)” (Al-Bukhari)

    * One should begin with two quick rak`ahs and then one may pray whatever one wishes after that. `A’ishah said:

    “When the Prophet prayed during the late-night, he would begin his Prayers with two quick rak`ahs.” (Muslim)
    * It is recommended that one wakes up one’s family, for Abu Hurairah quoted the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) as saying:

    “May Allah bless the man who gets up during the night to pray and wakes up his wife and who, if she refuses to get up, sprinkles water on her face. And may Allah bless the woman who gets up during the night to pray and wakes up her husband and who, if he refuses, sprinkles water on his face.” (Ahmad)

    The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) also said:

    “If a man wakes his wife and prays during the night or they pray two rak`ahs together, they will be recorded among those (men and women) who (constantly) make remembrance of Allah.” (Abu Dawud.)
    * If one gets sleepy while performing Tahajjud, one should sleep. This is based on the hadith narrated by `A’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her), who quoted Allah’s Messenger as saying:

    “When one of you gets up during the night for Prayer and his Qur’anic recital gets mixed up to the extent that he does not know what he says, he should lie down.” (Muslim.)

    Recommended Time for Tahajjud

    Tahajjud may be performed in the early part of the night, the middle part of the night, or the latter part of the night, but after the obligatory `Isha’ Prayer (night Prayer).

    While describing the Prophet’s way of performing Prayer, Anas (may Allah be pleased with him) said:

    “If we wanted to see him praying during the night, we could see him praying. If we wanted to see him sleeping during the night, we could see him sleeping. And sometimes he would fast for so many days that we thought he would not leave fasting throughout that month. And sometimes he would not fast (for so many days) that we thought he would not fast during that month.” (Al-Bukhari, Ahmad and An-Nasa’i.)

    Commenting on this subject, Ibn Hajar says:

    “There was no specific time in which the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) would perform his late night Prayer; but he used to do whatever was easiest for him.”

    Best Time for Tahajjud

    It is best to delay this Prayer to the last third portion of the night. Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) quoted the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) as saying:

    “Our Lord descends to the lowest heaven during the last third of the night, inquiring: ‘Who will call on Me so that I may respond to him? Who is asking something of Me so I may give it to him? Who is asking for My forgiveness so I may forgive him?’” (Al-Bukhari)

    `Amr ibn `Absah (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that he heard the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) saying:

    “The closest that a slave comes to his Lord is during the middle of the latter portion of the night. If you can be among those who remember Allah the Exalted One at that time, then do so.” (At-Tirmidhi)

    The Number of Rak`ahs in Tahajjud

    Tahajjud Prayer does not entail a specific number of rak`ahs that must be performed, nor is there any maximum limit that may be performed. It would be fulfilled even if one prayed just one rak`ah of Witr after `Isha’.

    Samurah ibn Jundub (may Allah be pleased with him) said:

    “The Messenger of Allah ordered us to pray during the night, a little or a lot, and to make the last of the Prayer the Witr Prayer.” (At-Tabarani and Al-Bazzar)

    I hope this answer is satisfactory. Thank you again for your question and please keep in touch.

    My take on this:
    Every muslim should own a copy of FIQH SUNNAH listed above as a reference
    I have prayed two to six rakahs and sometimes more, right uptill fajr. Allah knows best.


  89. thajjud is two rakat nafils prayers right? with any surah? is there a certain way too pray it please tell me with details thank you..


  90. Asalaamoalaikum,
    Tonight get up early and pray Tahajjud and ask Allah SWT to send you help………and inshallah he will help you.
    May Allah protect you and keep you in the folds of his mercy.


  91. I am really trying and everything u are saying i understand but idk why i still want too marry this person this person doesnt want too be with me and is very happy with their current mate lol i just thought idk u know when u dont do anything in life and then u decide to be with someone trusting them thinking you will marry them and it doesnt work out ur world crashes and plus i moved so im like four hours away now i never see him or hear from him… he said i wasnt good enough and he thought i was pity … he never loved me and he used me it hurts alot because i thought i was smarter …its really nice that your answering me because its helping me im trying really hard too never go back or talk too this person……i ask allah for patience every second but there are days im really weak….idk what to do i want too know why im still waiting..


  92. Asalaam o alaikum, la illaha illallah,

    this person did cheat on me and misused my faith and trust

    Inshallah Allah SWT took you away from this person because he is not worthy of you and inshallah has something and someone better planned for you.

    Stay away from the disobediences of ALlah, block all your calls and texts and email from him and go to the masjed and meet with people who pray and fast and try a different company of people of Deen.

    Inshallah you will heal and then find someone who will be an equal partner in your journey to jannah.

    If you continue to go to the swamp you will continue to get dirty, try the company of people of Deen even though they are not your current friends. Leave the circles that brought you to this “cheating” person.

    Allah SWT helps those who ask for help and then follow the help he gives.


  93. Thank you inshallah this helps , however since i am waiting do you think i should? because this person did cheat on me and misused my faith and trust however i believe they will marry me am i being insane or is it normal too feel this way?


  94. Thank you soo much for answering my….i know im suppose too help my self out of this situation however it hurts because i thought this person was my soul mate and i still wait because i believed everything happens once i really didnt think he would take me for every other girl … idk what too do i know allah does everything for a reason and there has too be a reason after this .. however for the time being how can i help my self from thinkin about the memories….


  95. Walaikum Asalaam wa rahmatullah hi wa barakatahu,
    When ever Allah SWT changes events for us, it is usually for our own good both in this world and in the Akhirah.
    I cannot advise you except to say what I have been advised: look into your heart, “what did I do wrong” and make sincere Istighfaar:

    Because: “Truly Allah is Oft Forgiving and All-Compassionate” Quran 2:173

    then fast for at least three days and if you are still having desire for someone haraam to you then fast some more and pray extra nafil.

    The time that you used to spending with him, go to the masjed or do volunteer work for the poor at that time, do not sit and obsess about him.

    Ask Allah SWT to Help you He is the best helper.
    Call upon Him:

    He is Al Mujib “One who answers All”

    “And when my servants question you concerning Me——I am near to answer the call of the caller, when he calls to Me” Quran 2:186

    “He answers those who believe and do righteous deeds and He enriches them through, of His bounty” Quran 42:26

    May Allah SWT guide you to what is good for you in this world and the Hereafter.


  96. Asalamualaikum i have lost the one i love they have left me for another girl i know its haram to date however i really thought we would get married but he left me and said i wasnt good enough now i ache and i want too marry him i know this is all a test and i have been taken away from haram however its soo hard too forget and let go the memories keep coming back too me what do i do? please help me i have alot of faith in Allah tell me what too do that will make me forget and let things be…


  97. Assalaam Alykum,

    Jazak Allah for guidience, we all ask Allah SWT to give us more sabr. Inshal Allah with the help of momin’s duwa, Allah give us peace , happyness and success very soon. Amin.

    Please keep us remeber in your duwa.


  98. Waliakum Asalaam wa rahmatullah hi wa barakatahu,
    As you are experiencing, this life is made of tests, inshallah in the Hereafter we will find peace.

    IMHO reading the Sunnah and the life of our beloved Prophet Muhammad PBUH helps as we walk in his footsteps and feel with him his trials and tribulations to realize, understand and empathize what he went through and how he held on to Allah’s obedience
    May Allah subhanawataala strengthen our obedience to Him.


  99. Assalaam-o-Alykum,

    Brother, we are again in bad times. I dont know where did I go wrong? May Allah SWT taking our test. But as much as I know myself, I am not a Wali, Abid or something like that. I am a simple person who trust in Allah only. And try to do as much as dhikr or salaat. Please dua to Allah not to take my more test. I a very weak person. Please do for us as much as you can.

    Allah give you good rewards.
    Allah Hafiz


  100. Walaikum Asalaam wa rahmarullah hi wa barakatahu Br. Mohammed,

    Pray and do Dhikr in good times and tense times, and hold tight to the rope of Allah SWT at all times.

    Try to give up some dunya and replace with Dhikr and salaat, inshallah it will help.

    May Allah SWT change your orientation towards Him permanently.


  101. Reassuring to know that Allah listens to the prayers of those who suffer injustice first; finding this out makes me feel less traumatized about all the wars and injustices that people suffer from.
    Knowing that Allah hears their prayers first, lightens my heart.
    Allahu Akbar!


  102. “Allah listens to the prayer first of one on whom injustice has been done.”
    Alfu shukrin wa shukrun.

    I found this very inspiring.
    Is the above from the Quran or Haddith? If so, would you kindly quote the source?


  103. Assalaam Alukum,

    Jazak Allah brother, Insha Allah me and my all pray for other muslims who are in need of duas and have difficulty. May Allah blesses them with His Rehama> Ameen.
    Eid Mubarak


  104. Walaikum Asalaam, Khair Mubarak! when ever we pray from the heart Allah Subhanawataala listens and gives us what is good for us! Inshallah.

    Please keep me and my family in your duas.


  105. Br M walaikum asalaam wa rahmatullah wa barakarahtahu…………..Alhamdollillah that your problems resolved, remember to pray for others who are in difficulty the world over and to give lots and lots of sadaqa to show gratefulness to Allah by being generous with His creation:)

    Br I asalaam o alaikum, I pray with you that we may be in the Sabireen it is truly an elevated position to be in.
    May Allah Subhanawataala assist you and me in explaining what is complex in a simple manner so that Allah’s message gets out to each and everyone we know personally.
    May Allah reward you for your efforts.


  106. I googled the word ‘sabr’ because I really was fed up with a certain situation but i wanted to remind myself of what really mathers and why things happen and i bumped into this internet site.

    the value of patience is expressed so clearly and the way brothers and sisters, support each other through all times makes life worth living.

    yes indeed, hardship is part of life and when hurt or surprised we say the most stupid things.

    inschaallah we’ll be with the sabirien, cause allah swt is with them.




  107. Assalaam Alykum,

    Alhumdulillah Allah’s best blesses showers on us and my all problems has been solved. Jazak Allah Kherakum. Please keep remember us in your valuable duwas. We need that most.

    Insha Allah Allah never let us alone. Ameen

    Allah Hafiz


  108. Walaikum Asalam wa rahmatullah wa barakatahu,
    May Allah Subhabawataala keep you (and me) awake on the odd nights and focus our hearts and minds on connecting with Him Jalayjalalahu.


  109. Assalaam Alykum,

    Alhamdulillah, 19th Ramadan is going on. Insha Allah, Allah accepted our all good wishes. Ameen

    Remember us in ur duas.

    Allah Hafiz


  110. Assalam Alykum,

    Please be remember us in ur Ramadan’s valuable duwas. Insha Allah our all problems will get solved at earliest.

    Allah Subhanaow Ta’ala hum sub ke roze namaz kobol kare. Amin



  111. Assalaamalykum,

    Insha Allah i will try m y best to do each n every thing HALAL. Insha Allah Allah will fulfil my duwas.Amin.
    Hopefully praying to Allah u too keep remember us in ur valuable duwas.



  112. Walaikum asalaam wa rahmatullah e wa barakatahu brother,

    Perhaps a lot of Durood, salawaat sent to Prophet Muhammad PBUH and Istighfaar and continuing to remain hopeful and continue to make a halal rozi, eat halal and work halal as well as fulfill all the rights of Allah and then do dua.
    Inshallah Allah SWT always answers your dua in a way that is best for you!


  113. Assalaam Alykum,

    Plz duwa for my and my family’s PATIENCE. That we are very helpless. Except Allah we are not seen anyone with us. And …..plz do more n more duwa for us.

    Jazak Allah Khair


  114. Aslaaamoalaikum Aina! The best dua of forgiveness comes from the heart of the person who wants forgiveness,
    fasting on the 15th of Shabaan and seeking forgiveness from anyone and everyone that you may have wronged pleases Allah SWT while He (SWT) reviews our book of deeds on that night.

    Dua: May Allah SWT show His mercy and forgiveness to you and may you only yearn for the path to jannah in all your thoughts and deeds!


    • Asalamalaykum, jazakAllahukhiran for all the benefit MarshAllah.

      May I ask in ref. to the statment:

      “fasting on the 15th of Shabaan and seeking forgiveness from anyone and everyone that you may have wronged pleases Allah SWT while He (SWT) reviews our book of deeds on that night.”

      where is the evidence for this statment, only I have been lead to belive that it is an act of bidah to specify the 15th Shabaan. I have added some fatwas reguarding this issue.

      Specifying the day of the 15th of Sha’baan by fasting or reciting the Qur.aan or performing naafilah prayers

      Question: We see some people specifying the 15th of Sha’baan with particular supplications and reciting the Qur.aan and performing naafilah prayers. So what is the correct position concerning this, and may Allaah reward you with good?

      Response: That which is correct is that fasting the 15th of Sha’baan or specifying it with reciting (the Qur.aan) or making (particular) supplications has no basis. So the day of the 15th of Sha’baan is like any other 15th day of other months. So from that which is known is that it has been legislated for a person to fast the 13th, 14th and 15th of every month, however, Sha’baan is characterised unlike the other months in that (except for Ramadhaan) the Prophet (sal-Allaahu `alayhe wa sallam) used to fast more in Sha’baan than any other month . So he used to either fast all of Sha’baan or just a little. Therefore, as long as it does not cause difficulty for a person, it is befitting to increase in fasting during Sha’baan in adherence to the example of the Prophet (sal-Allaahu `alayhe wa sallam).

      Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen
      al-Bid’u wal-Muhdathaat wa maa laa Asla lahu – Page 612
      Fataawa Shaykh Muhammad Ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen – Volume 1, Page 190


      Standing the night of the 15th of Sha’baan in prayer and fasting during it’s day

      Question: Is standing the night of the 15th of Sha’baan in prayer and fasting during it’s day legislated?

      Response: Nothing firm and reliable has been established on the authority of the Prophet (sal-Allaahu `alayhe wa sallam) that he stood in prayer in the night and fasted during the day of the 15th of Sha’baan. So the night of the 15th of Sha’baan is like any other night, and if someone is a regular worshipper during other nights, then he may stand the night in prayer on this night without assuming anything special (because of it being the night of the 15th of Sha’baan). This is because specifying a time for any act of worship requires a authentic proof, so if there is no authentic proof then the act is regarded as an innovation and all innovations are misguidance. Likewsie, regarding specifically fasting during the 15th day of Sha’baan, then no (authentic) proof has been established on the authority of the Prophet (sal-Allaahu `alayhe wa sallam) to indicate the legislation of fasting on that particular day.

      As for that which is mentioned from the ahaadeeth regarding this subject, then all of it is weak as the people of knowledge have indicated. However, whoever has the habit of fasting the 13th, 14th and 15th (of every month), then he can continue and fast during Sha’baan as he fasts during the other months, without assuming anything special about the 15th of Sha’baan. Also, the Prophet (sal-Allaahu `alayhe wa sallam) used to increase in fasting during this month (Sha’baan), however, he did not particularise the 15th day, rather proceeded as per norm.

      Shaykh Ibn Fowzaan
      al-Bid’u wal-Muhdathaat wa maa laa asla lahu – Page 614
      Noorun alad-Darb Fataawa Shaykh Saalih Ibn Fowzaan – Volume 1, Page 87



    • if still u want a Dua….then :
      Allah humma innaka ‘afuwwun tu hibbul ‘afwa f’afu ‘anna


  115. Assalaamualukum,

    Jazak Allah ho kher, Alhumdulillah Allah as HE precribes in HIS quran INNALLAH HO MA’AS SABREEN, proved once again in our life. Allah not only listen our duwa but accepted it too. Amlhumdulillah suma Alhumdulillah now i m still at my place but Allah give situations in my hand (suma Alhumdulillah). Now may i call my family here with all greetings. I am not yet decided. I am doing Istekhara, let what Allah decides better for us. Please you too do duwa to Allah to do better whatever is good for us. Whether i left this country or call family here? Insa Allah Allah will never ler HIS follower alone. You too do for the same.

    Your short notes and comments gives courage, please continue the same. Jazak Allah



  116. Walaikum Asalaam wa Rahmatullah wa Barakatahu!
    There are three groups of people that Allah SWT listens to immediately:
    1. A mother
    2. A traveller
    3. The opressed

    If our dua is not being fulfilled perhaps we need more humility, more istighfaar and inshallah with Allah’s help more patience, it may be fulfilled in a way that is unexpected, or may be fulfilled later if that is best for us.

    May Allah SWT listen to all our duas for this dunya and most importantly for the Akhirah and include us in the inhabitants of Jannah.

    May Allah SWT protect you and your family.


  117. Assalaam Alykum,

    Dear muslims,

    Alhumdulillah, Allah has listen our duwas and accepted. Insha Allah our good days are not so far. Please continue praying for us.

    Jazak Allah


  118. Assalaam Alykum,

    Yes, i m be patience and waiting for Allah’s best Mercy. And I m sure IT will come soonest, Insha Allah.



  119. Assalaam Alykum,

    Jazak Allah for the guidence. I am doing as much as i can. But …………Let see what Allah will do better for me and my family.

    Allah Hafiz


  120. Walaikum Asalaam,
    After completing your fard prayers, you can fast nafil, pray salaat e awabeen (see post in this blog0 and give sadaqa of money or service, and do a tasbeeh of Istighfaar when ever you can all day long:
    Astighfiruka wa atoobualaik!
    Allah listens to the prayer first of one on whom injustice has been done.
    Also the prayers of Istighfaar cleanse our sins.
    may Allah help all of us to cleanse our sins and accept our prayers.


  121. Assaalaam Alykum,

    Jazak Allah asqfinh, Insha Allah Allah listen your duwa faster for me. I would like to kufara of my sins. Can you help me by which way Allah pleases from His believers?

    Jazak Allah


  122. Assalaamu Alaikum,

    Dear Muslim Brothers & Sisters,

    I requested you to kindly duwa in favor of me and my family. I need that very much. May Allah listen your duwa faster then others?

    So, please do duwa as much as you can for my freedom as my kids (9/7) and lonely wife is waiting for me at home.

    Jazak Allah
    a brother in need


  123. Walaikum Asalaam wa rahmatullah wa barakatahu,
    Inna lil lahi wa inna elayhe rajaown, May Allah SWT forgive the shortcomings of your mother, may he prevent the difficulties in the grave for her, may He every moment elevate her level towards Jannah and may she find her final abode in Jannat ul Firdous.
    She has left behind something that can smooth her progress to jannah.
    One of the the three things one leaves behind in dunya that can facilitate opening the door to jannah is righteous children.
    Inshallah you will be reading, understanding and reflecting on the Quran and Allah SWT will throw you the rope of sabr, a lifeline and give you light (the Quran) and huda (guidance), and inshallah peace will descend in your heart, and your mother’s progress will inshallah begin towards jannah.
    May Allah SWT give you the patience and His love, and may you be kind and loving to others as your mother was to you.
    Everytime you remember her, do a good deed, and give a small sadaqa of action or money and inshallah Allah SWT will give you sabr and make your journey not only less grievous but purposeful. My prayers are for you and your family.
    We come from Allah and to Him we shall return.




    • MIAN ABDUL MANNAN bhai, you need to understand death more than praying. If your mother lived a righteous life (praying and obeying Allah’s laws), she’s in heaven now. You need to follow in her footsteps and perhaps try to be more religious. More importantly, you should read the Qur’an and understand it as much as possible. Knowledge will make the pain go away.

      Also, before you read the Qur’an (especially Yasin, chapter 36) pray to Allah to make your mother’s hereafter better. Lastly, i’m the one who disliked your comment.


      • Ignore the part about Yasin. There’s still debate over whether it affects someone who has already passed away. You can google it yourself to get an idea.


      • Asalaam o alaikum,
        Any righteous deed, including reading and following the Quran cannot be in question as to its benefit. It is our Rasool pbuh hadith that a dead person only leaves three things behind and one of those three is a righteous child. Allah knows best!


      • Asalaam o alaikum Brother AK,
        Please read your comment. Would you accept the suggestion of a person who is un empathic? Please practice rewording your thoughts so that they are empathic, have compassion for those hurting and then offer suggestions in a manner that is of a friend and fellow muslim it is then that your suggestion would be acceptable to the person who is hurting.
        JazaikAllah hu Khairan




      • Walaikum asalaam Sister Nishat, May Allah reward you manifold for your compassion, inshallah he will take you out of your trouble if you stick to “Haq”


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  126. Asalaamu alikum wa rahmatullah,

    Sabar and Shukr are beautiful things…

    It was quite intriguing to read about the four levels of patience. I wondered to myself if they corresponded with the three types of brain- reptilian, mammalian and human. I’m not sure exactly…I shouldn’t ramble.

    May Allah give us the courage to be patient, indeed is the best of deeds but also very difficult.

    Jazak’allah khair for sharing this.

    Don’t be sad


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