HOW TO HELP YOURSELF?2:45

The Ayah on how to get help.

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At the women’s afternoon meeting today we reviewed this ayah with Farhat Hashmi’s tafseer. When I got into the car to go back to work, I turned on Mokhtar Magroubi’s CD on “the inner dimensions of salah” and the first words I heard were this ayah.
It also is the ayah that I repeated to myself in English many many times after Tariq died and found solace in Allah’s promise in it. Though I was neither well versed in the ramifications of the tafseer, not had I paid much attention to the second part of the ayah. Patience and Prayer was my mantra when the clouds of desperate grief would begin to gather.
I am grateful to Allah SWT that he threw me a lifeline in my storm of grief and that I am coherent enough to share a succinct explanation of this ayah as I understand it now, after some more review. I have read different sources and distilled it down to the basic essentials, though to best understand its relationshsip to the preceding and suceeding ayahs should also be examined. However here I only present Surah 2:45:

Quran: 2.045: Three translations in English, none capturing the heart of the essence of the ayah. The tafseer and explanations that follow are from Farhat Hashmi and Sheikh Mokhtar Magroubi.

YUSUFALI: Nay, seek (Allah’s) help with patient perseverance and prayer: It is indeed hard, except to those who bring a lowly spirit.

PICKTHAL: Seek help in patience and prayer; and truly it is hard save for the humble-minded

SHAKIR: And seek assistance through patience and prayer, and most surely it is a hard thing except for the humble ones.

The method outlined in this ayah for people like me who are laden with grief and other challenges is as follows:
The first step is:
To help yourself!
How?
With Allah’s help!
How?
Through patience & prayer

What are the prerequisites for the kind of prayer that will support patience and help me?

It is the prayer of the khashieen i.e. the people with ‘Khushu’ which is translated by the above three authors in English as pertaining to humility, lowly spirit, & humble minded, none of which really define the essential essence of the word ‘khushu’

Khushu is something on which reams of literature is available, it is easy to read about but elusive to practice.
Farhat Hashmi defines’ Khushu’ in the tafseer of this ayah as:
“Inner peace leading to outer peace”
How to step into khushu?
Step one: Prepare the ambience to step into it, with a mindset of shutting out all else, taking care of all emergencies, eating enough so that you don’t think of food, but not enough to make you sleepy, turning off all electronic devices, pretending that you are suspended in the third dimension where you have no access to any one except Allah.

Step two: Perform a beautiful wudu with external silence starting with ‘Bismillah’ and ending with Ashadu an La illaha illal lah………put on blinders over your eyes (look down), don’t talk and focus on your upcoming dialogue with Allah (SWT), while proceeding to the musallah.

Step three:
When you enter into salaat, i.e. when you say “Allah o Akbar” you are negating and demoting all others to a lesser importance verbally and in your heart and mind.
When you say Allah O Akbar, you are seeking sanctuary into Allah’s presence, thus all else has to be left behind, mental, physical and emotional, and all other doors to the heart are to be closed behind us leaving us alone in the sanctuary with Allah SWT

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An Example:
We enter into khushu with himaat (focus) the example given by Sheikh Magroubi is that of a group of students taking an examination. No matter what the disturbance, their attention is not deviated from their examination paper. Their aim is to do the best on their examination in the time allotted to them. Their ultimate goal is to pass the examination with flying colors and get their degree to step into the real world.
We have a similar goal to step into the Hereafter if we want to pass our test in this world with flying colors we have to focus. An essential part of that test is our intensity of focus while connecting with our Lord, while we are on this earth.

What if we dont have khushu when we seek prayer?

The last option given in the ayah is the option of those who do not have khushu…….for them Allah SWT states that the prayer is very large, heavy (kabeera) and difficult.
What I understand is that if the prayer is not in Khushu then it is like something large (kabeera) weighing you down, instead of something light and beautiful lifting you up.

Prayer is practice for standing in front of our Lord and khushu is doing it with pleasure, the correct etiquette, dress and demeanor.

It is best to practice Standing in front of Allah in this world as we will be standing in front of him on the Day of Judgment. It is best to learn the protocol now than to appear gauche, uncouth and disrespectful on the Day of Judgment when we stand before Him for a very important interview. (Farhat Hashmi).

In the final analysis, we must help ourselves by asking for help from Allah through patience and prayer and to perform that prayer with Khushu, otherwise that prayer will be like a very large and heavy weight on us and difficult and thus will not benefit us in our primary goal of seeking His (SWT) help.

My personal take is that ‘khushu’ does not come all the time and every time. One has to persevere patiently in prayer and focus with the intense desire for khushu and then you are lifted.

Like a lock with a combination code, all the right actions have to be lined up for the door to swing open to give entry to the sanctuary of Allah wherein lies HELP.

May Allah forgive me for any mistakes that I may have made in understanding or presenting the explanation of this ayah.

18 thoughts on “HOW TO HELP YOURSELF?2:45

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  2. Jazakallah. Very inspiring.
    I just want to share my favourite verse from the Quran. From surat kahf between ayah 25 and 30 am not sure,

    ‘wala ta’du ‘aynaka anhum turidu zinatal hayyati dunya’

    it helps me keep contentment and remind me of it every time I seem to forgetful . Hope it helps someone out here too in shaa Allah.

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    • Chapter Name:Al-Baqra Verse No:45

      وَاسْتَعِينُواْ بِالصَّبْرِ وَالصَّلاَةِ وَإِنَّهَا لَكَبِيرَةٌ إِلاَّ عَلَى الْخَاشِعِينَ {45
      002:045 Khan
      :
      And seek help in patience and As-Salat (the prayer) and truly it is extremely heavy and hard except for Al-Khashi’un [i.e. the true believers in Allah – those who obey Allah with full submission, fear much from His Punishment, and believe in His Promise (Paradise, etc.) and in His Warnings (Hell, etc.)].
      002:045 Maulana
      :
      And seek assistance through patience and prayer, and this is hard except for the humble ones,
      002:045 Pickthal
      :
      Seek help in patience and prayer; and truly it is hard save for the humble-minded,
      002:045 Rashad
      :
      You shall seek help through steadfastness and the Contact Prayers (Salat). This is difficult indeed, but not so for the reverent,
      002:045 Sarwar
      :
      Help yourselves (in your affairs) with patience and prayer. It is a difficult task indeed, but not for the humble ones
      002:045 Shakir
      :
      And seek assistance through patience and prayer, and most surely it is a hard thing except for the humble ones,
      002:045 Sherali
      :
      And seek help with patience and prayer, and this indeed is hard except for the humble in spirit,
      002:045 Yusufali
      :
      Nay, seek (Allah’s) help with patient perseverance and prayer: It is indeed hard, except to those who bring a lowly spirit,

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  4. Asalaamoalaikum Brother Irfan, if you aim for a goal of “salaat with Khushoo” Inshallah Allah SWT will help you reach it.

    He (SWT) says “ask me” and I will answer your supplication.

    Sheikh Magroubi when asked how to get Khushoo in salaat? replied “What you are outside salaat, you are inside salaat” I have personally found that to be true. If my focus all day is connecting with Allah SWT then my salaat is beautiful, and I get a lot of solace and comfort in connecting with Him (SWT); however if I get too involved with dunya and set deadlines for me in dunya without factoring ample time for salaat then my salaat and my connection with Allah SWT suffers.

    Dua: May Allah SWT open His (SWT) channels of communication with you and may you make His worship your first priority. Ameen

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  5. Assalaam Alaikum,
    Brother i read your thinking and found that useful for our regular life.(Insha Allah).May Allah (SWT) give us the carrage to do the salah as HE wanted.(Amin).
    Infact, practically i am in situation where I need seek from Allah and only Allah. We are not so clear and unsins. May Allah tight me upon some of my sins. So I request all of your to kindly rememeber me in your valuable duwa whenever you pray salah like this. May Allah forgive me earlier.
    I am sure you all will remember me in your duwas.
    a brother in need
    Wassalaam

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  6. Walaikum asalaam wa rahmatullah wa barakatahu brother,
    It is when we are straying into dangerous areas sometimes that Allah SWT yanks us by removing what was our focus and it is a sign of His love, because He (SWT) wants us to refocus our lives with Him (SWT) as the center and our goal to prepare for Akhirah so that we can be in eternal peace, happiness and with Him (SWT) in Jannah.
    Having said that how does one adjust to the loss of your relationship with a woman.
    In order for you to examine what happened and what direction life was taking you, you need time to yourself without disturbance and the company of people who are righteous.
    The best method to find the above two at the same time is to find a masjid and spend fajr and Isha over there. You will find the righteous at those times in the masjid.
    Go to the masjid one hour before Isha and pray as many Nafils of Istighfaar as you can, read the meaning of the Quran in your language starting from the beginning and then pray Isha. After you have done this for six weeks then approach the Imam and ask questions if needed. You need the six weeks with yourself and your communication with Allah to find out where you need to be and how you can prevent such a happening in the future.
    During this time avoid looking, hearing and eating what would be a disobedience to Allah SWT.
    Inshallah when you take one step towards Him (SWT) he will take ten towards you.
    May Allah SWT purify your heart and put you on the right path with His (SWT) Rahma.

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  7. Salamalikum
    May Allah swt bless us all with sukoon, and take us away from anxiety. asqfish . may Allah swt bless you and protect you from all evil.
    i have been through a rough break up from a premartial relationship ( with always intention to get married) which lead to complete depression and anxiety. it has taken me 7 months to start to let go, and come to a conclousion , You can only truly trust Allah swt, becuase you can even let your self down sometimes, but Allah swt always want to reward you. I need help in the sense that , i am sicnciere at times, and at other times i am like a normal guy in western society, i am finding it hard to stay consistent in my prayers and in my Imaan.
    Sometimes , i feel, to let go off the past, i should just follow my desires, or take revenge on the person who came in between my happiness. I forgave both parties, but yet, i am not in a state that i want to be in , because, i cannot seem to maintain consistency in My Imaan!. Some times i do think , forgiving, controlling my anger, …has not received any results. I dislike people pitying them selves, yet some how , i seem to be on that border right now, how are you supposed to stop loving someone you loved for the sake of Allah, and how are you supposed to let that person get brainwashed by another human being?. I feel like i have failed to prove my love, but me doing any thing makes me the bad guy ?. I don’t know if i can ever trust or love a woman again,, apart form my mother and sister. Another thing i dont understand is, How do you know if Allah swt is happy with you ???,

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  8. Asalaamoalaikum,
    Thank you for not only reading but sharing some wisdom.
    I was just just thinking, there had been no feedback, was I writing to a wall? and just then your comment popped up, thank you!
    I mainly write to clarify my heart and my head in the perspective of my faith, but sometimes the soliloquy gets boring and I wonder if I am only feeding my nafs.
    it is always energising to hear from my faceless friends out there in the blogsphere.
    Do read “Solace” and “music and the angel of hope”, these are more recent posts.

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  9. One of my friends sent me the link to this web page. I read this article and could not stop at that and kept on reading a few more. It was really inspiring to read these. A few brought some fear of God and the one “Once Tariq had a friend” a few tears as well. They say that if in your lifetime you can touch one heart, change one life, the job is well done but it seems like you are touching many hearts and changing many lives every day.

    I loved your discussion about Khushu. Here is something that I read on the topic of the prayer:

    One night
    during prayers
    a vision
    of the Beloved
    appeared to me.

    Lifting the veil
    from the face,
    he said:

    “ Take a good look
    at the one
    you always leave behind”

    I hope and wish that when we say our prayers, we do it with khushu and not leave the Beloved behind.

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  10. The only failure is the failure to keep trying…May Allah help us all while we all try to achieve the khushu we all strive for. Remember, prayer does not change Allah, but changes him who prays…So let us continue trying through prayer…

    May Allah continue to bless you with ability to write so beautifully as you continue to provide a light for the rest of us through your articles.

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  11. May Allah help and guide both you and me, as we find our way out of the darkness of despair.
    Inshallah the first step is taken and help is here as promised by Allah SWT.

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  12. I was feeling as if i am going on and on towards this dark and cold nowhere, i was trying hard to look for a way out but was’nt able to see anything as i had the darkness of my weak thoughts around me……and you came…..held my hand and guided me out of that sheer darkness, just like a little light strong enough to lead your way out of miles of darkness……….May Allah(SWT) bless you with his highest rewards.

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