Pain is one of the major distractor in Ramadan. It could be body pain, heart pain or soul pain.
Body Pain: As I try to rest before the opening of the fast, deep pain surfs through my injured leg, and for a brief time I cannot make it go away. It distracts me from food, Salah and any proactive ebadah. I need more self-discipline to override it and move towards the recitation of the Quran, which brings me great solace and infuses me with strength.
I open the news page and yet another shooting melee stares at me. This time from Orlando where a lone man has shot numerous people. The curiosity to learn more about the motives of the man lead me into a maze of articles wasting precious time of ebadah which usually fills my soul with the freshness and istiqamah of emaan. There is nothing I can do about the shooting; I am neither a victim nor a perpetrator nor the justice system. All I am as I surf through the shooters and victim’s lives is a voyeur. Voyeurism is forbidden in our faith. So I must speak against the injustice without making judgments, which require proof of events and circumstances. I must move on.
Heart Pain, I watch my granddaughter with her dimpled smile and wonder if she knows that her bottle is going to be taken away as per instructions of her pediatrician. Breastfeeding ended due to issues unavoidable. The bottle works. I search for the command of Allah regarding breastfeeding and then to allow suckle for two years and send it to my daughter with a dua that she will ignore the barbaric practice of current day Pediatrics in the west. Time and the changing ethics and values of society have warped medical practice which now deprives babies at age one of the nourishment, and security of the nipple of the breast and or the bottle.
Here is the commandment from the Quran:
Recommended Time Period of Breastfeeding
Allah (SwT) mentions in Surat al-Baqarah, Verse 233:
وَالْوَالِدَاتُ يُرْضِعْنَ أَوْلاَدَهُنَّ حَوْلَيْنِ كَامِلَيْنِ لِــمَنْ أَرَادَ أَن يُتِمَّ الرَّضَاعَةَ
“Mothers shall suckle their children for two full years, – that for such as desire to complete the suckling.”
And in Surat al-Aĥqāf, Verse 15, He states:
وَحَمْلُهُ وَفِصَالُهُ ثَلاَثُونَ شَهْرًا
“And his gestation and weaning take thirty months”
I pray that the word of Allah wins over the shenanigans of the barbaric practices of childbearing in the west that has crept into the current medical system too. Doctors are being taught and recommending how to distance babies from their mothers, be it by the back facing car seat, the hand held rocker or a baby feeding chair, all methods to deprive the parental touch and body hugging with the baby. No wonder America has the highest number of cold-blooded murderers on the globe.
Deprivation of infants in the name of science and expediency plus mass commercialism of baby gadgets is a silent torture and is now it is Okayed by western medicine. More and more parents are brainwashed into buying gadgets to rock their baby to sleep, to feed them remotely, to have fake virtual pets, to let them cry at night in a room by themselves (called solitary imprisonment in the prison lingo) and more gadgets to distance the baby so she or he is rarely touched.
I thank God that my grandchildren have so far escaped that distancing by both parents and grandparents from both sides. I pray that it remain as such.
Soul pain; I read the blog by a young student volunteering at a remote part of Greece in a refugee camp He puts out and appeal to find a neurologist for a child suffering with some unknown motor neuron disease, melting away his muscles towards the finish line of life. While his parents sit helplessly with him in the camp waiting to be transferred to a European city they notice that their second child is also showing some symptoms of the same disease.
I recall all the neurogeneticists in the USA who could easily help these children. I recall the hysterical rants of our politicians how terrorists can hide in the refugees and how America should not accept any refugees. I look at the faces of the children the one dying of motor neuron disease the other showing signs of it and wonder how much terrorism they could bring to America.
I am reminded of an ayah in the Quran which says and I paraphrase” Allah has not given equal resources to all human beings. He has put the share of the sustenance of some on the earnings of the others”
It makes me wonder Why Allah made America rich in so many arenas? are the neurogenetists in America only supposed to treat people locally,? Will these two little children die waiting to be seen by someone somewhere?
The volunteer student from Hong Kong has posted a petition on his page a petition for the Spanish government to allow these children to be evaluated and treated if possible. A Spanish student volunteer suggested this. My heart goes out to these two boys they have clarity of the heart and are doing what ever is in their hands to get help for this refugee family. The question is are we in America doing this too?
I wonder if we know that all this wealth that Americans have amassed has a share in it that belongs to others with less. Allah has placed in their wealth the share of others whom He has given less.
Is this to test those who HAVE if they have compassion and if they pass the test to walk of the bridge of Siraat to reach the gardens of Paradise?
Distractors………… I tell myself. I must be selfish like some of my Muslim friends who are on their 20th Ummrah going around the Kaaba, their mouths filled with the words of Allah, supplicating for themselves and themselves alone. Do they pause and look at the enormity of using all their wealth to go on yet another five star Ummrah? What about the share of the one given less, the one whose sustenance has been placed in your wealth.
Have you ever considered that?
I must find succor in ebadah to take away my soul pain; I have no recourse, no power, all that is with Allah Subhanawataala.
As I get up to pray, I see in my minds eye what I need to do in the service of Allah as if He has given me the answer… and I submit.