BEYOND RIGHT AND WRONG: GRIEVING PARENTS OF DEAD CHILDREN………


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BEYOND RIGHT AND WRONG: GRIEVING PARENTS OF DEAD CHILDREN………

I am walking back to the cottage after watching the movie about the parents of dead children in Rwanda, Palestine, and Northern Ireland.

The night is dark, the stars are brilliant and small lights illuminate “the runaway” at Findhorn.

The movie is gut wrenching. The grief of the parents is easy to immerse into as tears flow from my eyes. The vast desolate desert of life ahead of them without their children is also an easy vision that resonates with me. What is challenging is how these parents are going to forgive the perpetrator of the crime and be able to do that while separating the forgiveness from condoning and reconciliation.

It is also poignant in those instances as in the Israel/Palestinian conflict where the aggression and the killing have not paused for forgiveness or any emotion other than rage. According to the people involved in the Forgiveness project it is a vicious cycle that can only be interrupted with Forgiveness first.

Sitting in front of my seat watching this movie is Pat from Northern Ireland who bombed the hotel where Jos father an MP was in a meeting and was killed. I wonder what his heart is doing as he watches himself being interviewed at his first conference with Jo and is attacked viciously though verbally by the men in the audience in the film.

Injustice, grief, rage, death, powerlessness, aggression, and forgiveness are all threads in the tapestry of the film……….which one you grapple with and how you perceive the pattern is completely unique to each one of us.

Walking down the path by the “field of dreams which is actually a field ringed with eco houses, I realize that Peace has to come inside each individual before it emanates outside.

4 thoughts on “BEYOND RIGHT AND WRONG: GRIEVING PARENTS OF DEAD CHILDREN………

  1. Such a difficult topic to grapple with especially when the roles of victim and perpetrator become all mixed up; gut-wrenching when it involves parents losing their child(ren)… the human experience always involves suffering. To reach that field beyond right and wrong…..that is the challenge, isn’t it?

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