CAN WOMEN CONVERSE WITHOUT BACKBITING? 4:31

41575_107441829278281_582_nAllah Subhanawataala promises entry into the Gardens if we can avoid the major sins, and one of the major sins that Muslim women indulge in every day and if not everyday than at least on Friday nights (how ironic) or when they are invited to a dinner party.

Tomorrow night there is a large party for the Pakistani community in a private home. All the women will come dressed to the hilt, hiding their aging necks, not under hijab but under large chunky necklaces either of gold or covered with a thin coating to make them seem like gold. They will get their little dishes of food and the conversation will begin.

Either they will bash other women who are not present or quietly whisper on the misfortune of those absent and shake their heads in false sympathy. Secretly they will assess the value of the clothes and jewelry that the others are wearing, and again comment on the value of theirs and how it is a valentine gift from their dear husband.

Desert will be served and some self-righteous women who never attend the mosque will comment on the activities of those who do……….. And so on.

On Thursday we studied about how we women can be admitted into the gardens of Jannah if we can refrain from indulging in the Kabair or great sins. Muslim women can pretty much avoid most of the Kabair: great sins, but there is one that we slip into seamlessly and which guarantees us the hellfire eternally……. However there is a way out.

Here is the ayah from Surah Nisa:

إِن تَجْتَنِبُوا كَبَائِرَ مَا تُنْهَوْنَ عَنْهُ نُكَفِّرْ عَنكُمْ سَيِّئَاتِكُمْ وَنُدْخِلْكُم مُّدْخَلًا كَرِيمًا ﴿٣١

[4:31] Yusuf Ali

If ye (but) eschew the most heinous of the things, which ye are forbidden to do, we shall expel out of you all the evil in you, and admit you to a gate of great honor.

Heinous here means “kabair” and the most popular kabair for Muslim women on Friday nights unfortunately is: Ghaibah or backbiting.

Allah promises that if we abstain from the Kabair including backbiting we will be given entrance into Jannah.

The test comes tomorrow for a large number of women in our community as they sit together and open their mouths to say…………??

4 thoughts on “CAN WOMEN CONVERSE WITHOUT BACKBITING? 4:31

  1. Dear brother,
    My comment is referred to your excellent article titled ‘ CAN WOMEN CONVERSE WITHOUT BACKBITING? ‘.
    While reading the same I remembered the Hadeed and feel to write it here to make the article more authentic.
    I have no problem if you have seen more men involved in gossip or ‘Ghiabah’. Allah knows best.

  2. There is an Hadeed, said the Messenger of Allah Prophet Mohammad SAW, peace be upon Him to Sahaba that I see half or more inhabitants of hell will be from womenfolk because of their usual habit of BACKBITING. May Allah save all of us. Ameeen.

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