On the loss of your daughter………

My dear friend lost her daughter who was wed only three months ago and we buried her on a bone chilling morning in a remote valley where the trees stand brave facing the punches of the cold wind. The pain within the heart seems unsurmountable…….


clouds of incense rise from her grave with a rose of memory from each bereaved friend and family grace the wilderness.

Here is my letter to her. I am sharing this promise of Allah with you as you may have friends and family in the throes of grief at the loss of their chilld. These healing (and warning) words of Allah may give them direction as they have given me and built a garden of sakeena around my heart………….which is only violated when I am away from the word of Allah Subhanawataala:

Dear S,
I am alone in the house and thinking of you and your dear daughter who has left the tribulations and temptations of this world and passed through the curtain to the other side, irreversibly inaccessible to us.
I am listening to the tafseer of the Quran by Dr Farhat Hashmi online and suddenly this ayah stands out as a beacon of light both for you and me:
Here is the promise of Allah.

وَالَّذِينَ آمَنُوا وَاتَّبَعَتْهُمْ ذُرِّيَّتُهُم بِإِيمَانٍ أَلْحَقْنَا بِهِمْ ذُرِّيَّتَهُمْ وَمَا أَلَتْنَاهُم مِّنْ عَمَلِهِم مِّن شَيْءٍ ۚ كُلُّ امْرِئٍ بِمَا كَسَبَ رَهِينٌ ﴿٢١

And those who believe and whose offspring follow them in Faith, to them shall We join their offspring, and We shall not decrease the reward of their deeds in anything. Every person is a pledge for that which he has earned.
Thus my dear friend, endeavor to purify your salah so that it contains only what Prophet Muhammad pbuh taught, do it at the afzal time (with it will come Sakeena).
In addition take care of your health and personal welfare, both physical, spiritual and financial. Do not wait for others (even your own child) to do it for you, they may help you but they cannot do it for you.
Inshallah Allah will unite us with our children in jannah but since their book is closed we have to work on our book to write in it enough obedience of Allah that we inshallah fulfill the rough prerequisites to meet them in Jannah.
DUA: May you meet your dear daughter in Jannah and your days may be happy eternally. Ameen.
Your friend in sorrow………..

3 thoughts on “On the loss of your daughter………

  1. None of us are prepared for this kind of loss. May Allah not put on us a burden which we cannot bear.. Publish some photos of her when she was well. The only way to survive such sorrow is to think of the happy days you had with her..


  2. Dear Sister
    My heart goes out to your friend S. Its very exclusive club. Although every child is dear but she at least has others to hold on to. There are people who don’t even have that. Even more exclusive club. Tell her to hold on to the roap, “this too shall pass”.
    Anisur Rahman


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