الَّذِينَ يُنفِقُونَ فِي السَّرَّاءِ وَالضَّرَّاءِ وَالْكَاظِمِينَ الْغَيْظَ وَالْعَافِينَ عَنِ النَّاسِ ۗ وَاللَّـهُ يُحِبُّ الْمُحْسِنِينَ ﴿١٣٤﴾
Who spend [in the cause of Allah] during ease and hardship and who restrain anger and who pardon the people – and Allah loves the doers of good;
TAFSEER BY DR FARHAT HASHMI
Those who swallow anger (the binding of the mouth of the water skin)
Whoever is witness to your anger that person will be burnt!
Whoever is angry should be silent.
Ghaiz: the boiling of water (anger)
Repeat: Oudhobillahi minish shaitaan nir rajeem.
Avoid the situation or place
Recognize what makes you angry?
Evaluate what helps one go away from anger
Channelize anger into constructive action. Evaluate food habits, study food that increase anger.
Evaluate environment as well as friendships and SUHBAH
Listening to Ghaibah (Backbiting) causes anger sometimes doesn’t it?
Study and remember Surah Al Asr
If someone comes with a complaint, do not make him or her angrier by fanning the flames or discounting them.
Allah is happy with the Mohsin. (A Mohsin is one who gives to the other what is MORE than his right)
Forgive people; one is unable to spend on anyone unless one can forgive them.
Allah Subhanawataala wants you to swallow your anger.
Do not express your anger …….if you do you will hurt others irrevocably
If you keep the anger within you, it will hurt you!
Allah Subhanawataala says do not keep the anger within you. When you forgive the person you are angry with the anger dissipates just by forgiving them and Allah loves the Mohsineen.
Anger is ugly as the person in anger is ugly when upset and becomes evil looking.
How do you forgive?
Hadith: On the day of qiyamah there will be a shout our by the angels “is there anyone who has a Haq (right) on Allah and only those will stand who have forgiven others and Allah will give them any or all that they want!
Anger is a flame that destroys. If it is expressed it burns the recipient, if it is hoarded within, it burns the hoarder or it explodes one day with the pressure building up with time.
So what to do?
That is what this ayah is about:
SUMMARY OF WHAT TO DO WITH ANGER
>CONTROL IT WITH METHODS GIVEN ABOVE
>DO NOT EXPRESS IT
>DO NOT HARBOR IT WITHIN YOU
>FORGIVE THE PERSON WHO MADE YOU ANGRY
>THINK OF THE DAY OF JUDGMENT WHEN ALLAH WILL CALL FOR THOSE WHO FORGAVE THE PERSON WHO INCURRED THEIR ANGER
> THUS FORGIVE, FORGIVE, AND FORGIVE.
>ERASE THE REASON FOR ANGER
> PEACE NOW AND IN THE HEREAFTER WITH ANY GIFT YOU WANT FROM OUR BENEFACTOR THE ALMIGHTY.
Emaan is essential for this algorithm of delayed gratification to deal with anger as per the ayah mentioned.