Excerpted from tafseer by Dr. Farhat Hashmi during the explanation of these ayahs in Surah NOOR:
إِنَّ ٱلَّذِينَ جَآءُو بِٱلۡإِفۡكِ عُصۡبَةٌ۬ مِّنكُمۡۚ لَا تَحۡسَبُوهُ شَرًّ۬ا لَّكُمۖ بَلۡ هُوَ خَيۡرٌ۬ لَّكُمۡۚ لِكُلِّ ٱمۡرِىٍٕ۬ مِّنۡہُم مَّا ٱكۡتَسَبَ مِنَ ٱلۡإِثۡمِۚ وَٱلَّذِى تَوَلَّىٰ كِبۡرَهُ ۥ مِنۡہُمۡ لَهُ ۥ عَذَابٌ عَظِيمٌ۬ (١١) لَّوۡلَآ إِذۡ سَمِعۡتُمُوهُ ظَنَّ ٱلۡمُؤۡمِنُونَ وَٱلۡمُؤۡمِنَـٰتُ بِأَنفُسِہِمۡ خَيۡرً۬ا وَقَالُواْ هَـٰذَآ إِفۡكٌ۬ مُّبِينٌ۬ (١٢)
Lo! they who spread the slander are a gang among you. Deem it not a bad thing for you; nay, it is good for you. Unto every man of them (will be paid) that which he hath earned of the sin; and as for him among them who had the greater share therein, his will be an awful doom. (11) Why did not the believers, men and women, when ye heard it, think good of their own own folk, and say: It is a manifest untruth? (12)
IIf someone is saying something bad about you and it is not reaching you then should not worry about it for in doing so his/her good deeds are being passed to you.
However the one that is quoting something negative or bad that has been said about you and is transmitting it to you and repeats the bad thing to you, these people have no haya and are following in the steps of Shaitaan.
The best method to answer slander or any kind of bad thing about anyone is:
……………. وَقَالُواْ هَـٰذَآ إِفۡكٌ۬ مُّبِينٌ۬ (١٢)
…….. Say: It is a manifest untruth? (12)
Haza ifk um mobeen: This is an open lie.
Do not go into explanations, or detailed defense, just say:
“This is an obvious lie” and stop the slanderer in his or her tracks!
No need to enlarge upon it:
BREAKING THE RELAY OF FILTH:
Cut down that person’s word right away. Then the person who is spreading it is discouraged and if this sentence (“This is an obvious lie”) is repeated from all those to whom this person takes the bad/ill information/slander then this person is discouraged from spreading bad things about anyone.
Bad things/slander etc have been likened to carrying filth, and depositing it in front of you to see, and then showing the ingredients of the filth to you in detail.
This is part of our emaan: not to carry filth and not to spread it and not to receive it.