20 THINGS I NEED TO KNOW FOR A HAPPY & BLISSFUL MARRIAGE:1-10

GUIDED BY THE MOST KNOWLEDGEABLE: THE QURAN & SUNNAH

I.    WHAT IS IMPORTANT: SETTING PRIORITIES

II.    DEEN: HOW TO SPIRITUALLY NOURISH MYSELF DESPITE MY BUSY SCHEDULE

III.    MAKING A REALISTIC SCHEDULE WITH THE TWO FS: FARD FIRST

a.    knowledge of the Five pillars
i.    Tawheed & its practice in everyday life
ii.    Salaat
iii.    Zakat
iv.    Sawm (fasting)
v.    Hajj

b.    Having a schedule to practice the five pillars

IV.    ACCEPTING RESPONSIBILITY OF MY OWN ACTIONS

V.    GIVING UP (SACRIFICING) WHAT IS DISOBEDIENT TO ALLAH
a.    Vetting TV, music and other programs for disobedience
b.    Avoiding places where alcohol is sold and partaken
c.    Buying and eating Halal & Tayyab
d.    Avoiding companions who frequent places where there is disobedience of Allah

VI.    SEEKING WHAT IS OBEDIENT TO ALLAH SWT
a.    Seeking the company of people and places where it is easy to be obedient to Allah
b.    Seeking people who nurture the fidelity and nurture of my relationship with my spouse.

VII.    ADDING DEEN TO MY DAILY LIFE

a.    The seven rights of a muslim on me
b.    Memorizing daily duas and know the advantages of doing so.
c.    Being conscious of Fi SabillAllah when seeing patients
d.    When to add Bismillah, and Shukr Alhamdollillah to my actions
e.    Exercise, eat and cook like the prophet (PBUH)
f.    Visiting and entertainment like the Prophet (PBUH)

VIII.    KNOWING MY RIGHTS AND OBLIGATIONS TO:

a.    My spouse
b.    Parents
c.    Inheritance
d.    Last will & testament
e.    Community
f.    Children

IX.    COMMUNICATING MY NEEDS AND ACCEPTING HELP FROM EACH OTHER
a.    Building in personal and couple down time each day
b.    Building in personal and couple down time each week
c.    Quarterly spiritual retreat to refresh the Deen
d.    Counseling if unable to resolve issues in a gridlock

X.    KEEPING A BALANCE IN THE MARRIAGE PARTNERS AND AVOID BUILDING NEGATIVE FEELINGS

a.    Testing my actions against the golden standard of the Quran
b.    Imitating the Prophet (PBUH)
c.    In problems: Checking how our Prophet (PBUH) resolved this problem (Seeking the Sunnah)

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